ShortyBrown Posted June 2, 2003 Posted June 2, 2003 Hey there, Nearly 3 months ago I met this fella at my work. Two weeks after we met, he informed me that he was not after a relationship, and I was completely cool with that, being only 21 and all (he's 31). However he did call me up after this particular date was over and said he looked forward to seeing me again. Fair enough. We live in the same surburb so we ran into each other at least once every couple of weeks,and developed a friendship that went beyond hooking up. He was running late for work one morning for example and instead of taking me home and dashing off, he went AWOL from work and took me to McDonalds. About four and a bit weeks ago I noticed a change in him.My gut kept telling me he was holding back from me,but I don't get why. We were out at dinner and another fella was checking me out, which raised his ire enough to grumble " you might as well go off with him he could offer you more than I could." If that didn't tick me off enough, he got drunk and blabbed about another woman he was casually seeing and flirted with anything that moved.I gave no indication that I was interested in the other guy. A week and a half ago,I skipped work and walked straight into him (literally) at the mall. we went back to his place and had some coffee. He was horribly tense the whole time I was there.(he's having a few personal probs) As he dropped me off home he said to me, "you shouldn't depend on me for anything, go get yourself a boyfriend,you deserve better." I behaved like a baby who was having her favourite toy taken away and yelled at him, which I apologised for. I began to feel like I was being played for an idiot. I had myself all ready to go round to his place today,return the sweatshirt he lent me and let rip. I stopped short at the end of his street. I couldn't believe the worst of him. I could not believe that he purposely set out to dog me after all of this. I can't understand why,if we were only having a little fun, would he back off so strongly. So am I being irrational? or am was I blind to it and got myself played? thankyou.
Tony T Posted June 2, 2003 Posted June 2, 2003 You obviously don't pay much attention. He clearly told you right from the beginning that he didn't want a relationship. You found out he's got some problems to work out, which is probably why he doesn't want a girlfriend at this time. He was even kind enough to tell you to stop wasting time with him and to go find a boyfriend who deserved you. This guy is very straightforward and honest if you ask me. Not too many like that. So exactly what is your problem with him? I think he's been extremely upfront with you. If you feel like you've been played for an idiot, it may be only because you didn't listen carefully to what he told you from the very beginning...which YOU yourself posted. Read your post again...it's all right in there!!!
Author ShortyBrown Posted June 2, 2003 Author Posted June 2, 2003 Tony-Sorry,I'm not that great at articulating myself Sometimes you need a second voice to help you clear through the self-created mess in your mind though. Hopefully with a bit of time, he and I can be friends, I think it would be a shame if things finished up like this. Untill then............ Thanks.
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