MattN Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 Well I finally got her to sign the papers and my divorce was final Nov 28th. I got joint/shared custody and have just as much say in his life that she does. I got the house and pretty much everything else. Its funny how things work out because 2 days after the divorce was final I found out she did leave for another guy who I actually know from a place we use to go. He is older than me (I'm 35) and lives with his mom and is pretty much just trash if you know what I mean. I don't say that because I'm upset or anything I say it because its reality..She doesn't involve him with my son at all so I don't have to deal with that either. I thought I would be upset and maybe if I would have found out a year and 4 months ago I would have but I just can't help but laugh. I always tried to convince myself it wasn't me (yes I know I have faults but who doesnt) but this has made it a lot easier.. I feel like a big weight has been lifted off my shoulders especially financially. She has been trying to talk to me but theres really nothing to say at least on my end. I have no guilt no regret.. I just wanted to thank everyone here for helping me and giving me guidance and the strength to not do the stupid things we do when the one we loved screws us over. I've finally found my light at the end of the tunnel..
polywog Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 Congtrats, Matt! What a milestone. I've been divorced, so I know. Onward and upward, Matt. :bunny:
Curmudgeon Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 Good for you. Now life can move forward, she can be relegated to the past for the most part and you can cncentrate on yourself and your son. I well remember the day I received the final court order for divorce and it was all over with. My immediate reaction was a profound sense of relief.
whichwayisup Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 Well I finally got her to sign the papers and my divorce was final Nov 28th. I got joint/shared custody and have just as much say in his life that she does. I got the house and pretty much everything else. I am glad to hear that you now have joint custody, that's fantastic news! And, you got the house, plus more. All I can say is, focus on co-parenting with your EX. Don't ever let the bad crap get in the way, you must BE the better and more stable parent now, even if being nice to her KILLS you inside, just know that it will pay off in the end AND be easier for your child.
2sunny Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 good for you! i, too felt a sense of relief - my divorce took more than 2 years to be finalized.
sumdude Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 Well I finally got her to sign the papers and my divorce was final Nov 28th. I got joint/shared custody and have just as much say in his life that she does. I got the house and pretty much everything else. Its funny how things work out because 2 days after the divorce was final I found out she did leave for another guy who I actually know from a place we use to go. He is older than me (I'm 35) and lives with his mom and is pretty much just trash if you know what I mean. I don't say that because I'm upset or anything I say it because its reality..She doesn't involve him with my son at all so I don't have to deal with that either. I thought I would be upset and maybe if I would have found out a year and 4 months ago I would have but I just can't help but laugh. I always tried to convince myself it wasn't me (yes I know I have faults but who doesnt) but this has made it a lot easier.. I feel like a big weight has been lifted off my shoulders especially financially. She has been trying to talk to me but theres really nothing to say at least on my end. I have no guilt no regret.. I just wanted to thank everyone here for helping me and giving me guidance and the strength to not do the stupid things we do when the one we loved screws us over. I've finally found my light at the end of the tunnel.. Glad to hear you're doing well. Just caught up on your original thread.. Interesting how now that you know the truth it doesn't matter much eh? Just how spot on some of the regulars here can be. I'm fully expecting to hear a similar peice of news any day about my ex. I'm at ten months past her moving out and turning the corner myself. Carry on!
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