bigheartkindsoul Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 Just a thank you to all who took the trouble to post good advice and try to help me. I have been in a great place now for 10days, it feels so much better. The depression, I have got sorted its gone healed, whatever. The thoughts of the ex are almost non-existant now, and have little emotion whether that be hate, anger or upset, to them. I am looking forward to Xmas, it maybe hard because it was the time we started dating, but I will keep myself busy and make sure I have plenty of great things too do. I have been making social plans for the run up to Xmas so I have some fun things going on incl my work Xmas party in Dublin next weekend. There isn't really much more I can add. So yey to you, but more importantly yey to me. HAPPY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE and MUCH MORE IMPORTANTLY A HAPPIER HAPPY NEW YEAR. Lots of Love Deb {{{{{hugs}}}}}
Jmina Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 I know you dont think much of me, but i would like to let you know that i am happy for you, and it is great to hear you have gained control back into your life. Jmina xx
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted December 7, 2007 Author Posted December 7, 2007 I know you dont think much of me, but i would like to let you know that i am happy for you, and it is great to hear you have gained control back into your life. Jmina xx I don't have any beef with you hun, Thank you I am really happy that I feel normal again.
littlekitty Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 Glad you're feeling better and more upbeat again BKHS.
bustertypsy Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 Great news!! Onwards and upwards for you.I think because you faced your grief head on,this helped you heal quickly.Now the world is your oyster,go find that pearl.
Quinch Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 Good to hear you're better, hun I knew you could do it (((hugs)))
polywog Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 I don't know your story, but I just want to add my congrats to your good feelings. And thanks for posting an update, because these sorts of posts help all of us & give us hope!
frd150 Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 I expect good news everyday from where ever I can find it, just something to make me smile . This is my good news for today. THANKS! A big Holiday Cheers! to you.
brothermartin Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 Congratulations BIGHEART! I knew you could pull through it! Have a merry Christmas champ!!
sedgwick Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 how did you do that so fast???? it's been five months for me and i still cry every day. the only way it's better now than it was when he dumped me is that now i can eat.
marlena Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 Honey, You just gave yourself the best Christmas present ever! So, have yourself as the song goes, a very merry little Christmas time!
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted December 9, 2007 Author Posted December 9, 2007 how did you do that so fast???? it's been five months for me and i still cry every day. the only way it's better now than it was when he dumped me is that now i can eat. Dertermination - I get/have this dertermined streak in me from my Mum, it was that, that made me go into anger/I'll show him mode not long after the break up and I went out all the time, went down the gym etc to get my life great - as they say the best revenge on an ex is living well. So lots of bumps some bigger than others but I always wanted to get past this, I wanted to be happy again, he was not going to ruin anymore of my life than he already did. Of course it took several months, lots of therapy, reading, emotional trauma, grieving, healing but I am pretty much there. I was willing and did try pretty much everything I could think off. You need to get dertermined to sort your life out cause no one will just knock at your door and do it for you, so go out, keep busy, get fit, get healthy, in the end what you will find is that you are so busy with thoughts of those things, the thoughts of the ex are so little. But it won't just come to you, you have to go get it hun. I do self hypnosis now, to instill in me higher self esteem, that I am in control and it seems to work.
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