SmileyFace82 Posted December 7, 2007 Share Posted December 7, 2007 Hi, Just when i thought i was getting better and almost 99% recovered i am feeling really depressed and lonely again. I don't know what has sparked all this, i really don't. But i do feel really lonely and perhaps it's cause Christmas is approaching and i know that i will be all alone. But i feel like it's more than just that. I'm in a country where i don't know that many people here, i'm away from my family and i can't get time off work to fly back home. I know a big part is because i miss my ex, and our relationship ended quite suddenly for me. It's been 3 months ago now and i'm not in contact with her anymore and cause she is with someone else (she left me for him). It hurts but i know i will be in greater pain if i did contact her. I really was doing so well but ii have no idea why i'm feeling REALLY down in the last couple of days... so much so that i feel like breaking down and crying! I'm just wondering if this is normal? I was really doing so well and moving on and then BHAM... i'm feel like i'm back to square one. And i have no idea what has sparked all this. i feel hopeless... Link to post Share on other sites
randuff Posted December 7, 2007 Share Posted December 7, 2007 I am sure that this is completely normal. Some event probably triggered an emotion to make you think of her. You made it this far and had a little set back. I suggest you go back to when you first started and follow the same steps and continue your progression. It sounds as if you were doing great and you will be better in no time. Hang tough and keep a positive attitude!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Rowen Posted December 7, 2007 Share Posted December 7, 2007 I hear you brother. Someone posting on her wall on facebook triggered me today and it wasn't even something I didn't know alrady., Link to post Share on other sites
Author SmileyFace82 Posted December 7, 2007 Author Share Posted December 7, 2007 Yeha i know. I'd deleted her off my facebook purely for that fact... and i thought it was a positive move and would lead to my final steps of getting over her but if anything, i think it might have had the reverse effect. As for randuff... thanks for the encouraging words. I will try and hang in there but i'd put a huge effort over the last couple of months and initially i felt good but at the moment i feel like i have nothing to show for it. I was way down there when i first broke up with my ex and i had to fly back to my home country and be with my family cause i was near suicidal. They were a huge help and i've been okayish since. But i guess the krux of the matter is that i actually love this girl and i had let her into my space and now she's gone i feel so empty. And i know the reasons why i should move on and sometimes i wish i can just take my own advice on the matter, but i am in so much pain... and the only people i can share it with are people on LS as the closest person i know in this country...was my ex and everyone else who are close to me are back in my home country. i don't know, maybe i'm just making excuses... i feel so alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Crestfallen_KH Posted December 7, 2007 Share Posted December 7, 2007 I'm in the same situation (separated 3 months ago, he left me for another woman). I find when I'm getting sad out of nowhere that there's usually some hidden "anniversary" tied to it. For example, on Oct 7 I felt really down and started bawling when I realized that it had been one month that I had been out of my own. The "28th" of the month can be tricky, too, as that was the day that he told me he for sure wanted the divorce. Anyway, our subconscious remembers things that our conscious minds don't, so when I start getting blubbery I try and figure out why. Sometimes I'm just blubbery! Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts