anarky Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 hey guys and gals first post here.. need some advice this may sounds trivial what im actually asking but its driving me crazy, as i am not quite sure what to do... might be a bit long and very complicated but a background to what as happened will be important, im a 22 year old male. 4 months ago me and my ex of 3 years (shes 22 also) were going through a very rough patch which had been going on for about 2 month prior. Things had got so bad (involving her telling me she likes one of my friends!, and acting very slutty around my mates, we had also been talking about breaking up) then one day i decided enough was a enough and moved my stuff out of our flat (we had been living together for about a year) and rung her up and told her it was over, we had been fighting very bad for the past few weeks which resulted in me staying at my parents house most of the time. The next day my flatmate comes up to me and says my ex friend left my exs room (our room) in the mourning (this being the day after we broke up)... i was absolutely shocked and went around there to find them in our bed together. I find out through people that they had seen them kiss before we broke up i confront her about it and she admits that they had kissed twice but thats it which i am very skeptical about thinking back to all the times they were alone together as he constantly hung at my flat and used my stuff and drank my beer. Anyway i dont talk to her for about a week and those two continue to see each other. I talk to her on msn etc and tell her that i still want her... she calls it off with him ( and i know she stopped seeing him through friends) and starts constantly txting me and calling me and we meet randomly one might at a bar which end up in me going home and sleeping with her tho she initiated it all ... i ignore most of the messages cos i am to angry at the that time and needed time (tho i didn't make it to clear) didn't really know what i wanted as everyone one was telling me not to go back. She goes away for a week and constantly txts and calls me asking me to go to dinner with her when she returns etc and that she loves me etc etc i tell her we can talk when she comes back.The day after she comes back i go around to talk to her and shes not home so i call her and she says she out at dinner with workmates... i then drive past his house on the way home and notice her car is parked outside. call her and she admits hangs up and turns her phone off. I meet up with her two days later and she tells me "she loves me, she always will but she wont get back together with me now and talks about maybe one day in the future" and i think she thinks i was just trying to keep them two apart... she then finds out the next day that i had slept with two girls that she sort of knew after we broke up (only after i found out about her with my mate) and goes absolutely nuts at me bombarding me with abuse about very personal things and uses this as a excuse why we cant get back together ... a week later she tells me she likes him alot and wants to be with him. Since then she has txted me a few times a week asking how im going blah blah and she misses me ...and brought me a presents back from overseas came to my door to give it to me and basically being very friendly to me ... i have told her not to contact me and i don't answer most txts or emails. anyway i still love her and sometimes think i would like it to be back the way it was a year ago (i know this wont happen). We had a shaky relationship at times but never broke up for longer then a day and had a lot of fun together the only problem was she wanted me around her constantly (as she didn't have much friends of her own, she had moved to my city from somewhere else and refused to make her own friends) which got to me a bit and resulted in me hanging out with the lads a bit to much which help accumulate to our break up . I just cant get it out of my head that she doesn't want me anymore... she always was the one more into me, then i was into her i thought (tho i loved her a lot)... she wanted marriage for the last year of our relationship but i thought we were to young. She has now moved in with this guy. This worst thing about this situation is that i will have to deal with them at parties etc... (tho they seem to never turn up to ones that i am at even when its his best friends??) any advice how to deal with this when it happens would be great? in the last 2 weeks she keeps contacting me and is now asking me to meet up with her to catch up ... and that she "misses me heaps and heaps" in my head i know i shouldn't, this girl has ruined my life for the last 4 months and shat on me worse then anyone else ever has.... but i just cant bring my self to say no... so i just said il think about it... she has continued to text me begging me to answer her.... should i meet with this girl its driving me crazy?? i keep thinking maybe she still wants to be with me... but i dont want to make the impression that i have forgiven her and im ok with what happened and am her friend now by meeting up ... ??? advice please
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