randy61 Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 My wife moved home to her mother's about one month ago. I live at home with both of my kids. She has told me that she is 99% sure that she wants a divorce, but hasn't actually done that yet. Her reason for this is because " she loves me but is no longer in love with me." I have alot of issues about this whole thing but my main problem now is that she feels this way but has suggested Christmas shopping together and her spending the night on Christmas Eve to be here in the morning for Christmas. My question is this--- should i do these things for her as not to upset her or should i tell her no that she has divorced this family and she must live with that? I do not want this separation/divorce as i love her very much so i do not want to alienate her but i also want her to see and feel what she is losing. Any advice would bve appreciated!!
Gunny376 Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 She walked out of her you, her children, her family, her home?! I'd tell her to go spend Christmas with her new boyfriends and to stay the Hell away from me!
joekurtz Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 Randy, if you really do love your wife & honestly want her back & want to save your marriage, DON'T listen that wounded pride of your's & banish her from the house on Christmas. Not unless you want to turn that 99% certainty of a divorce into a 100%. Go Christmas shopping with her & invite her to spend the night on Christmas Eve. If you want to save your relationship with her & keep your family together, then that's where she belongs. Trying to "punish" her for moving out a month ago by banning her from the house during the holidays is a horrible idea IMO.
LakesideDream Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 The holidays and not ruining the festivities for your children makes your situation impossibly difficult. The responding poster was correct. To be a good dad this year you need to knuckle under and accept your soon to be ex wife's demands, do the shopping and the Christmas Eve thing. The fact that your soon to be ex has moved in with her parent, without the children who came out of her body, should tip you off to the likelyhood that someone else is entering through the same orifice. She needs her time and privacy. Hopefully you have the inclination and means to provide the primary care for your kids. She doesen't sound like she has their interests close to her heart. Next year will be even worse. The courts will probably give her holidays in the custody split. Good luck to you, you'll need it.
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