loveconquers Posted December 5, 2007 Posted December 5, 2007 My story is very complicated! But I am in serious need of advice. About 4 years ago I was in a destructive relationship with a man who is now my EH. He cheated on me several times and was verbally and sometimes physically abusive. Toward the end of this relationship I met a great guy online- who ended up being in a nearby town. I never cheated on my ex, it was strictly a "talking relationship". But this guy gave me the ability to be strong enough to leave my marriage. Needless to say I fell completely in love with this guy, but many factors have kept us from being together. One, he is 8 years younger than me. Another one that may affect him- I have a son. So for the past several years we have seen each other on and off, but never actually been together. He always tells me that he loves me and that he will always love, but it is as if something is holding him back from me. I feel as if he is my soulmate. And when I think about my life all I can see is us together. I want to make him happy more than I want my own happiness. I dream of the simple things like jumping in his lap while he watches tv, cooking his favorites for supper, and laying in the grass looking at the stars. When we are sneaking being together we have the most passionate/sweetest relationship. I cannot get him off my mind. He currently has a girlfriend who he fights with constantly. I won't have anything to do with him while he's with her. But recently we all ended up at the same place and all my friends said he watched me all night. And I ended up dancing with one of his friends and he stared us down all night- then later that night he and his gf had a huge blow out of a fight- resulting in his gf calling me to ask if he was with me!! Why would she think that? All my friends say he was jealous, but I really wasn't paying any attention. I love him with all my heart and I want to be with him and I honestly believe in my gut he loves me just as much- even that its all gonna work out in the end- I'm just heartsick with the waiting. Any advice?
spookie Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 I know that every situation is different, but it seems a tad delusional to me to be "waiting" for a man who is in a relationship, who has given you no indication that he wants that relationship to end, and to be completely convinced, after all that, that he loves you and that you're soulmates. He may have some feelings for you, but it doesn't appear they are strong enough to persuade him to overcome the "obstacles" to be with you. On top of that, telling you he loves you while in a relationship = cheater. You do not want this man.
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