4everloveu Posted December 5, 2007 Posted December 5, 2007 I just curious that everyone talking about MM don't leave the W for OW. But what about MW ever leave the H for OM?
stillafool Posted December 5, 2007 Posted December 5, 2007 I think even less MW leave their h's for the OM. They are way too worried about their financial situation and disrupting their kids life.
Author 4everloveu Posted December 5, 2007 Author Posted December 5, 2007 I'm asking because my friend have A with MW, but he been waitting for her to leave or D her H.
Meaplus3 Posted December 5, 2007 Posted December 5, 2007 I think even less MW leave their h's for the OM. They are way too worried about their financial situation and disrupting their kids life. Your right Stillafool!! You hit the nail on the head here! AP:)
frannie Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 Well, you can read a lot about MW who get divorced because they met a MM and started a relationship with them. The MW will often divorce, but not the MM. Then you have a divorced OW, and a MM (quite a few of those here on LS). On the other hand, if the woman is married, but the OM is single, it doesn't seem to go so well... So there are a few single OM on here whose MW never left. However, those are anecdotal stories, not statistics. In fact, it's only really when one or other of the affair parties is 'stuck' or not getting out of their marriage that someone ends up somewhere like LS. So, you could say... we don't really know. It might be that there are lots of MW getting divorced because they met a single man... but we never hear their stories.
Woggle Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 I think that much more MW probably leave for OM. 75% of divorces are filed by women so in general women do a whole lot more leaving. Also women tend to get clouded by the affair fog more while are able to put the cheating in the proper perspective.
stampdaddy Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 Well, you can read a lot about MW who get divorced because they met a MM and started a relationship with them. The MW will often divorce, but not the MM. Then you have a divorced OW, and a MM (quite a few of those here on LS). On the other hand, if the woman is married, but the OM is single, it doesn't seem to go so well... So there are a few single OM on here whose MW never left. However, those are anecdotal stories, not statistics. In fact, it's only really when one or other of the affair parties is 'stuck' or not getting out of their marriage that someone ends up somewhere like LS. So, you could say... we don't really know. It might be that there are lots of MW getting divorced because they met a single man... but we never hear their stories. Hopefully I will be "one of those OM" that can tell you that they will leave...
Author 4everloveu Posted December 6, 2007 Author Posted December 6, 2007 The Affair been going for long and she didn't Divorce or seperate from her H. My friend just waitting for that day. I told him to move on. He is seperate from his W but not D either.
nadiaj2727 Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 Well, you can read a lot about MW who get divorced because they met a MM and started a relationship with them. The MW will often divorce, but not the MM. Then you have a divorced OW, and a MM (quite a few of those here on LS). I see at least anecdotal truth in what you say here Frannie... I was engaged when I met my xMM. I fell for his "I'm getting divorced, we're going to be together forever" story and look where it got me... I broke off my engagement and he didn't get divorced. I think women have a tendency to be strong for what they want and men (meaning married men who cheat) have a tendency to be weak and not even know what they really want.
Author 4everloveu Posted December 7, 2007 Author Posted December 7, 2007 I think women have a tendency to be strong for what they want. I agree with this part. Sometime I feel that man don't know what they want or maybe they don't want to face it. Women know if they really truely in love, they will make decision.
stillhere Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 I D my H, but not for my MM. I did it for me. I tried to leave long before my MM (or cheating on my H) even came into the picture. I was not happy, so there was no money in this world that would have made me stay with my H. I support myself, i don't need anyone to support me. And my daughter has adjusted very well. As long as both parents are willing to get along and work together for the sake of the child, the child(ren) will be fine.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 I just curious that everyone talking about MM don't leave the W for OW. But what about MW ever leave the H for OM? MM do leave their M's...some just don't admit they're leaving for the OW... MW do leave their M's, too... Blanket generalizations are just that, generalizations...
frannie Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 I think women have a tendency to be strong for what they want and men (meaning married men who cheat) have a tendency to be weak and not even know what they really want. I think there's a lot of truth in this BUT I think it's because, generally speaking (sorry GEL! ), men and women prioritise things differently, and see things differently, and of course legally and practically they don't face the same future in divorce. Men are much less likely to leave behind everything for love (and that's usually what they would have to do), women are much more likely to divorce a husband they no longer love. Of course, that is generalising! And there are lots of women who are not fully happy with the man they're with, but love the life they have. And to the OP, if your friend has been waiting on this MW for years and she's not left, I would say you're right: she's not going to. 'Cake-eating' women exist just as much as men.
Author 4everloveu Posted December 7, 2007 Author Posted December 7, 2007 It's been 10yrs and she still with her H. He should move on.
whichwayisup Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 Yes, he should move on!! He is wasting his life!
scaredinlove Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 I just curious that everyone talking about MM don't leave the W for OW. But what about MW ever leave the H for OM? I left my H for OM and I am divorced now. Iwasn't happy though andI would leave soones or latter. My OM was also a MM and he is still M. that is my story.
Author 4everloveu Posted December 7, 2007 Author Posted December 7, 2007 I don't know why he keep thinking that she will be with him one day. When he already know the answer.
Author 4everloveu Posted December 7, 2007 Author Posted December 7, 2007 I left my H for OM and I am divorced now. Iwasn't happy though andI would leave soones or latter. My OM was also a MM and he is still M. that is my story. I'm sorry to hear that. So the MM still with the W even you Divorced your H. May I ask how long was you together with the OM and decided to D your H.
scaredinlove Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 I'm sorry to hear that. So the MM still with the W even you Divorced your H. May I ask how long was you together with the OM and decided to D your H. Don't be sorry things not work the way we want most of the time, we were almost 4 yrs.
Author 4everloveu Posted December 8, 2007 Author Posted December 8, 2007 Yes, I understand that things doesn't work out the way we want it to be. I shouldn't have feeling for him. We only together for ONE month, after he try to close the chapter with MW.
Nixson Posted December 8, 2007 Posted December 8, 2007 I left my M to pursue a happier life as I have stated in other threads. Like one of the posters said, MM/MW do leave their M. It may not happen soon enough but it does happen. If I didn't see myself with my OW, I would have told her so rather than leading her on.
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