norajane Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 I'm glad you are in therapy. Discuss co-dependence with your therapist. She knows all about it, and seems to have picked up on your tendency as well. It's very common for children of addicts. As for your ex, no, he is not happy in the arms of OW. She is a band-aid, at best, and probably adding to his unhappiness with this pregnancy...do you really think your ex is cut out to be a father and deal with the responsibility of taking care of someone else???? He and OW are probably fighting constantly, and he is building up his resentment toward her and probably also blames her for getting pregnant. A man like him can't be happy. He has too many issues to be happy. An alcoholic, drug abuser who is emotionally unstable and might be bi-polar and who tried to commit suicide...geez, that is the very definition of an unhappy person. Happiness comes from within, not from another person. That's one of the reasons you can't 'save' your ex, and that's also why no woman can make him happy. He has to first do the hard work and face his issues and resolve them before he can ever be happy with anyone.
Author Confused9 Posted December 29, 2007 Author Posted December 29, 2007 I will speak with her about it, thank you! Maybe this will be the best thing that ever happened to me in the long run? MAybe I will learn a lot about myself form this? I just can't wait till I can wake up and not be sad. Not miss him so much it hurts. I also wish for that one day when he comes back. I know it's not good to do so...but I wish for it. I know it won't happen and I am not banking on it...but a girl can dream! I know what you are going to say, why would you want a man like that. The truth is...I love him and still want to be with him. PErhaps that will go away. I hope it does!!! For my sake, I really do!
LifesontheUp Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 Maybe this will be the best thing that ever happened to me in the long run? MAybe I will learn a lot about myself form this? You seem the type of person that will learn from this Confused and no doubt you will become a stronger person for it too. I promise you will look back in years to come and wonder what on earth you ever saw in the loser
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