EVIDENCE THREAD: Most sexually active people

[Sunblast]

I came up with this idea and I hope enough of you support it for it to work. I am starting an Evidence thread where we'll write things and talk about things that we have witnessed first-hand. No accounts, no matter how reliable, will be accepted: just what we see ourselves. I hope to pool together the evidence observed by the very many LS'rs from all walks of life. BUT, remember, only actual, first-hand evidence.

 

NO hearsay (s/he said) allowed! Give this a fair effort or if you think it's stupid, please restrain yourself and let my project be.

 

First topic: most sexually active people, male and female. What are some defining or notable things or traits about them? Where, how does it happen? What do we know? Are there commonalities? Surely, there must be.

 

Let's kill STEREOTYPES! Bring what you know first hand! Let's talk about it!

[fral945]

Traits I've seen for sexually active:

 

1) Risk takers - for both sexes (but much more so for men). If you don't try it's hard to get laid

2) Strong views - basically people who are not moderate in their views and have strong opinions.

3) Smokers - not sure why, I've just noticed it's true. Maybe a smoker can elaborate on this.

4) Drinkers - alcohol inhibits good judgement, so this one is obvious. Doesn't necessarily mean good sex, lol, just probably more opportunity.

5) Drug users - see #4 description

6) Good looking - obvious, but probably not as important as some would think.

7) Non-religious - obviously, a non-religious person won't have any hangups about premarital sex other than the practical ones, like STDs

 

Traits I've seen for non-sexually active:

 

1) Risk averse - self-explanatory

2) Moderate views - it seems people who don't have real strong opinions don't tend to attract others. Maybe they seem boring, I don't know.

3) Non-smokers - As stated above, not sure why, I've just noticed it's true.

4) Teetotalers - If you don't drink or use drugs, you are not in as many situations where you can let go of your inhibitions

5) Smart - Not sure why, my best guess is that smarter people understand that sex carries the risk of disease, and smarter people have better impulse control, so they avoid this desirable activity. Kind of goes hand in hand with #1 (risk averse). Plus we've all seen movies with the sci-fi/Trek/D&D nerd who can't get a woman (sorry, had to throw a stereotype in there)

 

 

The one stereotype I'm not sure about is being married. I've read that married people have more sex than singles. While this may be true (the obvious being that ideally you have someone available all of the time), I've got to believe it's only true for the first part of a relationship (of course, I'm not married, so what do I know?)

 

Just my two cents. I can tell you I have most of the traits of the non-sexually active listed above (except being a sci-fi/Trek/D&D geek, lol), and I definetly don't get laid very often . Mine can mainly be attributed to reason #1.

[spookie]

I'd say level of risk-aversion encompasses most of the other traits. Decisions whether to smoke, drink, do drugs, have extremist views, etc. all involve a personal analysis in risk aversion, which smart people may perform more frequently because they can better approximate the long-term consequences of their actions. I agree with what you wrote but the argument applies better to single people considering sex with new partners, and as such does not answer the question, cause, of course, lots of people are married, and they may be as risk-averse as they get and still be having sex with their wives.

[Kamille]

I came up with this idea and I hope enough of you support it for it to work. I am starting an Evidence thread where we'll write things and talk about things that we have witnessed first-hand. No accounts, no matter how reliable, will be accepted: just what we see ourselves. I hope to pool together the evidence observed by the very many LS'rs from all walks of life. BUT, remember, only actual, first-hand evidence.

 

NO hearsay (s/he said) allowed! Give this a fair effort or if you think it's stupid, please restrain yourself and let my project be.

 

First topic: most sexually active people, male and female. What are some defining or notable things or traits about them? Where, how does it happen? What do we know? Are there commonalities? Surely, there must be.

 

Let's kill STEREOTYPES! Bring what you know first hand! Let's talk about it!

 

 

What constitutes 'most sexually active'? Do you mean people who have sex with the most partners or people who have sex most frequently?

[dbtmarley]

1. Women with 10 plus tattoos, especially if one is a huge dream catcher covering entire back.
   
2. Women who love to swallow without so much being asked to do so.
   
3. Ex strippers
   
4. Women with a lot of kids from different daddies (self explanatory)
   
5. Women who can't cook
   
6. Women who can put their ankles behind their ears
   
7. Women who can orgasm just by being touched on the breast.
   
8. Bisexual women
   
9. Women whose name begins with the letter S or T
   
10. Women whos birthday month ends with the letter R and sometimes Y or E.

[fral945]

I'd say level of risk-aversion encompasses most of the other traits. Decisions whether to smoke, drink, do drugs, have extremist views, etc. all involve a personal analysis in risk aversion, which smart people may perform more frequently because they can better approximate the long-term consequences of their actions.

 

Good point, you summed it up more succinctly than I did. So you are saying that risk aversion is an underlying cause of the others, which I would agree with.

 

 

I agree with what you wrote but the argument applies better to single people considering sex with new partners, and as such does not answer the question, cause, of course, lots of people are married, and they may be as risk-averse as they get and still be having sex with their wives.

 

True, guess that is coming from the perspective of a single guy here .

[Leoni]

It's impossible to do a generalization by including both genders.

[LoveLace]

All smokers, drinkers, with tattoos? That is stereotypical/judgemental in my opinion...what do we mean by "sexually active"...that could mean a couple that has sex all the time or it could mean a "slut".

 

I've known people who remained virgins until 20 years old and they drank and smoked...

[Keara]

all involve a personal analysis in risk aversion, which smart people may perform more frequently because they can better approximate the long-term consequences of their actions.

 

Ahhh... so now you're judging them as stupid? Interesting.

 

Risk takers = dumb.

 

From my personal experience... the people who are highly sexually active with many partners have all had traumatic/bad childhoods in which they felt either unloved, or strongly unwanted.

[Sunblast]

I'm excited my thread is moving along! I will elaborate somewhat and add my own experiences.

 

"Most sexually active" means with many new partners, particularly many desirable partners. It applies mostly to unmarried people (duh). By desirable I mean some generally accepted standard. We all have our tastes, but we can all say what's hot and what's ugly, or at least agree on a general level.

 

Now, my own experiences. I'm now 25. I've had a tough childhood in a sense that I didn't get along with many people, got beat up a lot, and wasn't popular (again, duh). Girls in high school didn't want me, I had two girlfriends.

 

Then I turned SLUTTY with a capital S. I got better looking, worked out, finished multiple schools, and really focused on girls and sex. I had some standards but past that most tail was fair game. So I f*cked a lot.

 

As average sex got boring, I got more and more selective, turning down plenty of girls, probably about 25 or so so far in life. Still, I have had close to about 60 partners, many average, some ugly and so gorgeous you drop everything, f*ck her and hope she doesn't abort.

 

Then I got into various kink like BDSM, and started looking for that in sex.

 

So if I'm a case study, I guess it's because of my "tough" childhood. I grew up socially stupid and wanted to compensate for it -- and still do. But what about people who always f*cked? Jocks in high school, jocks in college.

 

I've come to think it's pretty obvious. It's considered the thing to do (to f*ck jocks). You're a guy, you're in sports so you're more muscular and more energetic and horny (testosterone), you have your group of friends, you are doing something fun (playing sports), you get more confident in a generally non-confident time (you have friends, popularity, girls) and it builds on itself. Same with college. So I think that's most of what there is to it -- add to that you being risque', horny, and having balls, and maybe a tattoo or a nice car, and viola!

 

Plus college girls are sluts.

 

As far as after college... after college, I don't know. (Even if most of my girls weren't from college).

[Sunblast]

By the way, to sum up some of the first responses: are you guys saying that basically the main reason for getting laid (for guys) is having balls? You have balls, you get laid. Is this what you're saying?

[fral945]

By the way, to sum up some of the first responses: are you guys saying that basically the main reason for getting laid (for guys) is having balls? You have balls, you get laid. Is this what you're saying?

 

I'd say yea, that pretty much sums it up.

[sumdude]

I think it's more complicated than just risk and risk aversion. Depends how you were brought up, what your goals are, your self image and how you think about sex. If your goal is just to have a lot of sex and you have the confidence and/or willingess to make it happen than that's what you do. If your goals are more relationship oriented you wan't have as many partners or sex quite as often. Also depends on how many hearts you're willing to break too I guess. The risk side is knowing that the more partners you have the higher your chances of STD's etc.

[KittenMoon]

I don't really want to open this can of worms personally, but I read an interesting article not too far back that said the most sexually active folks (as in most partners) fell into two categories:

 

1. People who were extremely friendly to most people

2. People were markedly emotionally closed off to most people

 

They went on to discuss how the #1s used sex as a form of expression of affection and love, and since they had so much affection towards people, they ended up with more partners. And the the #2s used impersonal sex as a method to keep distance between them and others, and more as a validation/conquest thing.

 

They found those with the fewest partners tended right down the center- neither over-friendly or over-distanced from the people around them.

 

It was interesting. And it seemed to fall in line with the people I know.

[Sunblast]

I have an ugly friend who f-cks guys like no tomorrow. But I hear -- HEARSAY -- from girls about their hot friends, who go f-ck like no tomorrow, too.

 

But I think it's a meaningless inquiry into slutty WOMEN -- if they wanna f-ck, they go and f-uck. But with men, they have to chosen by women for the many reasons we all know.

 

So I think we ought to modify this thread to:

- What are the traits of guys who have many sexual partners;

- What prompts girls to want many sexual partners.

 

By the way, I don't mean many as in 10-20. I mean many as in 60+, 80+. And as for guys, obviously you can get to f-cking 80 girls if you lower standards, up the age, and you can have a new girl every other day; take you a couple of months for it all. I mean more like... at least decently attractive girls; girls you wouldn't be embarrassed to walk around with sober, in the day time, in a public place.