mikerayne Posted December 5, 2007 Posted December 5, 2007 i dont know if i really know,my wife of three years,we have a couple of kids,decieded tht it would be a great idea to contact her ex husband whom she hadnt talk to for 10 years(damn facebook)and not tell me about it,of course,but i had found out my wife had been using and dealing drugs to support her habit and "make extra money",and spending large amount of money on stupid things while i was at work for 16hrs a day.so when i confronted her about it she denied it all,then left,where did she go?to **** her ex,now shes in a mental instition,stress related seizure(grand mall leaving her memory and motor function severally impaired)and has been diagnosed with phycosis and bi polar,she is very medicated,should i talk to her,try to make it work,the kids 3 and 11,should i care,when she left she said she didnt want to be with me anymore,does this count as being seperated?or adultry?can she be held accountable for her actions under this kind of stress...just looking for some outside imput,thanks
Cobra_X30 Posted December 5, 2007 Posted December 5, 2007 Take care of your kids first! Take care of your wife second! Guide your choices that way. In your shoes... I would get a divorce and look for someone who could and would be a good mother.
Chrome Barracuda Posted December 5, 2007 Posted December 5, 2007 Dude this woman has some serious F-ing issues!!!! Your asking the wrong questions! Go and get a lawyer and protect you and those kids even if you gotta protect them from her, that's what happens when you go crazy! Right now your kids come first, forget about her and worry on keeping your kids safe, and keeping them in a positive environment! Forget about her, because right now she is not in any position to answer any questions rationally.
Citizen Erased Posted December 5, 2007 Posted December 5, 2007 is bi polar,drug addiction,stress a good reason to cheat No.They are excellent reasons for you leaving her however.
Curmudgeon Posted December 5, 2007 Posted December 5, 2007 None of those are, in and of themselves, good reasons to cheat. There are no good reasons. The reality is that many bipolars, when in a hypermanic stage, act out sexually. Others spend money irresponsibly. Some do both. Drug addicts will do almost anything for their fix, to include sell themselves, lie and/or steal. Stress? Everyone has some in their lives. Some more than others. Yes! She can be held accountable, but to what end? Sounds to me as if you have some decisions to make. Best of luck!
BetrayedMM Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 Yes, she must take responsibility for her actions. My wife is a rapid cycling bipolar, and has used that as an excuse, but ultimately, she makes conscious decisions to do the nasty things she does, and she knows fully exactly how wrong her actions are. She CHOOSES to do everything she does, there are urges, but the decisions are hers to make. She has managed to avoid being institutionalized, but at least at one time that I am aware of her shrink wanted her admitted and she refused... it seems that they must do something really really stupid to become institutionalized against their will... From what I have experienced, it it the manic phase that ya need to worry about. Hypermanic is a term that can be misleading, as it refers to a mild manic episode, where manic refers to... being hyper to say the least. It is a problem though, a puzzle. On one hand, one is aware that the disorder is causing urges far above and beyond what 'normal' people will, and that needs to be considered. On the other hand, these are people who are 'flawed', or 'defective' by nature, and are likely to keep on repeating the same mistakes... It's a tough call...
sb129 Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 Your wife is being looked after by professionals, so all you should be worrying about right now is your kids, and exercising damage control so that they are affected as little as possible by their mothers behaviour.. You can't make a R that has been this severely damaged "work" while she is in an institution. Is she going to go to rehab for the drug addiction as well, or is she in a one stop shop? She may be there a while, and unfortunately, even though she will try to convince you otherwise, she did it all to herself. Get on with your life, look out for your kids, and take each day one at a time.
LaughMachine Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 This woman is just crazy in general. I agree with above posters, take care of your kids first.
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