Monrose Posted December 4, 2007 Posted December 4, 2007 Here goes... We've met in January, because my best friend became a friend with his friend. I thought nothing of him, caught in my own little word of college and studying. We barely spoke two words that night, and I went away to school. When I returned a month later, I looked him over better, and I realized he was really beautiful, and funny too. He was also looking my way a lot, and I became this stupid ice-queen, because it's my way, and I can't seem to get rid of it. As time went by, I fell more in love, and he kept gazing my way, but he never actually did anything. We were in the same crowd a couple of times, but he never talked to me (and I couldn't think what to say to him either), only to all of my girlfriends! He wouldn't even look at me when we were standing close, but he made up for it when we were on separate sides of the room. Boy was he staring, I could feel his eyes on me all the time. I caught him watching me more times that I could count, and I'd always look away. Silly me with eyes of not obedient variety. Time passed and nothing changed. We've been in the same crowd again last weekend, and although I enjoyed the time when I was that close to him, I'm also frustrated with the lack of progress. Before you jump to any conclusions, you should know that he's not been seen with a girl ever (but definitely not gay!, and he says he had one), nor his friends know that someone broke his heart. It could be that he's just extremely shy, but he seams so relaxed and witty with everyone but me. What should I do with myself to make things happen, because it's all driving me crazy. I wanna be with him, but I'm aware of the fact that I should be moving on if there is no hope for the two of us. Ooh, this was long. Thoughts, comments, rants?
Pyro Posted December 4, 2007 Posted December 4, 2007 Sounds like he is too shy to try anything. Have you thought about making a move first? Guys don't always have to be the ones to make the first move.
Author Monrose Posted December 4, 2007 Author Posted December 4, 2007 That's a part of the problem. I have no idea how to approach him, because I feel so entirely out of place when I'm near him... That sounded wrong. I'm shy too, and tend to turn into a blabbering idiot all too much when he's around.
MrMichael Posted December 4, 2007 Posted December 4, 2007 and I became this stupid ice-queen, because it's my way, and I can't seem to get rid of it. this is the other problem> he knows you are unaproachable..guys have radar too, loose the refrigerator syndrome and go talk to him. ASAP
Pyro Posted December 4, 2007 Posted December 4, 2007 That's a part of the problem. I have no idea how to approach him, because I feel so entirely out of place when I'm near him... That sounded wrong. I'm shy too, and tend to turn into a blabbering idiot all too much when he's around. Maybe you are too beautiful for him to approach you. Maybe he thinks you are involved with someone. One of the two of you is going to have to break the ice if you want anything to happen. Since you are the one here asking for advice, you should try to break the ice.
norajane Posted December 4, 2007 Posted December 4, 2007 How about you go up to him with a smile, and introduce yourself with something like, "hi, I'm Monrose. We've been bumping into each other so often lately, that I wanted to come introduce myself! What's your name?" And then start a conversation about how you're visiting from college, what you miss about your hometown when you're away at school, that the best thing about home is seeing your friends, which friends you have in common, etc. He ought to be able to come up with some questions or comments about what you're studying at college, what you like to do in your free time, music, concerts, bungee jumping, whatever. If you give him an opening, I'm sure he'll come up with things to talk about, too.
polywog Posted December 4, 2007 Posted December 4, 2007 I'm with the others who say you should make the first move. Got nothing to lose, after all. The ice princess thing is intimidating, tho maybe you don't mean it to be. Put yourself in his shoes, he's probably scared to make a move. See where it goes. Good luck. PS- I've often been the one to make the first move (I'm female) and it's a good thing, mostly... kind of scary, but why not....
fray718 Posted December 5, 2007 Posted December 5, 2007 I'm with the others who say you should make the first move. Got nothing to lose, after all. The ice princess thing is intimidating, tho maybe you don't mean it to be. Put yourself in his shoes, he's probably scared to make a move. See where it goes. Good luck. PS- I've often been the one to make the first move (I'm female) and it's a good thing, mostly... kind of scary, but why not.... I agree. It's perfectly ok to make the first move in approaching him as long as you leave it up to him to ask you out first.
Author Monrose Posted December 5, 2007 Author Posted December 5, 2007 Ok, it seams it's all up to me. I'll see him this weekend, but I can't exactly come to him and introduce myself since we already did that, I just have to start talking.
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