JohnnyS Posted December 4, 2007 Posted December 4, 2007 Where to start......??? I dated this female for a little over a year, I moved from NY to Florida in Sept. of '06 and shortly thereafter we met, instant attraction. I was 37 and she was 25, I never let age determine whom I date, unless of course if the local authorities can get involved! We were instant best friends, we spent weekends going on day trips, we laughed together and had so many things in common. She's originally from Missouri, her Mother, Father and brother moved to Florida about 14 years ago. This past May her brother, sister in law and father moved back to Missouri as they bought some land and their time in Florida was based on a sick grandmother. Her father was/is an alcoholic and was very verbally abusive to her growing up, as was mine and she always told me it was hard on her, as it was me. Shortly after her family moved back, she had the bug to want to move back as well. She asked me if I would go with her and I told her I would move anywhere in world for her, that's how much I loved her. In the past two months things just started to change, what was "we", had turned to "I". She stopped asking me questions about Missouri, talks on the phone with her dad were done in private and so on. Things were strained I can tell and in noticing it i told her we needed to talk as I believe communication is the key. We would talk, cry, and get things out. She told me she misses her family,, I understand, my family lives in NY, but she IS my family now as I saw it. I had a gut feeling something was going to happen and I was right. Last Wednesday I came home from work to have her tell me she was moving out, she still loves me, she always did, but she's just not happy. I cried of course not wanting to hear it, and I felt as if I was kicked in the gut. She stayed that night and said she was going to pack some of her things tomorrow and get the rest either Friday or Saturday. That night in bed we held each other like nothing was wrong. The next day I went home on lunch break like I usually do and she was there packing up her clothes, crying, telling me she loves me, and asked me to "make love" to her, the sucker I am I did thinking maybe she just needs time away and I'll see her in a couple of days. I got home from work on Friday the rest of her stuff is gone, here come the tears! She leaves a note on the kitchen counter that says " I love you, I do" "please call me". I spoke to her on Sunday evening and she was in Missouri, she made the move, I broke down again. I knew it was coming but it hurt so bad. How can she tell me she loves me and then just moves away? On the phone she tells me again she loves and misses me, then why do what she did?? I've been through divorce and that wasnt as hard as what I'm going through. Not only did I lose my lover, but more importantly I lost my best friend, thats what hurts the most. Why does love hurt so much?
Blue Eyed Brain Posted December 4, 2007 Posted December 4, 2007 She didn't see the relationship as you saw it. 12 years is a big experience difference. It's not the age, it's the experiences that one has that makes them who they are. You have more experience and she is still creating 12 years of what you already had. I think all along, you were more into than she was. Maybe a stepping stone into something else she wanted? Maybe she found someone else. Frankly, women your age are at their sexual peak, so if you connect with someone your age, not only would you have more things in common, but you will reap the pleasure of her sexual appetite.
Author JohnnyS Posted December 4, 2007 Author Posted December 4, 2007 This girl was all about me, loved me to death. i just received a text from her stating so, why? If you love someone so much how do you just walk away? I can say with 1000% certainty there's nobody else in her life, 'cept her family. In a matter of two months it went from buying a house together in Missouri to "see ya later?" Just hard to swallow.
MrMichael Posted December 5, 2007 Posted December 5, 2007 I've been through divorce and that wasnt as hard as what I'm going through. Not only did I lose my lover, but more importantly I lost my best friend, thats what hurts the most. Why does love hurt so much? darn..yet another story like mine....this seems to be the trend of the year...girls/guys getting scared, backing out and telling the dumped "I love you - please call"..sorry bro, I read your story, aside from the age gap, its alot like mine...just the whole "1 day she bails deal"
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