so dont know ??

[lostyoungwomen]

ok here goes this women the same age as me walked into my life a year and a half ago we are best friends and have a really deep connection and love being around eachother. Heres where the problem started me and this friend spent so much time together and got on so well we became so close and started to flirt it was like we just couldnt help it and we still do this now to a certain extent we cant be without eachother and are always telling eachother we love one an other which we do.

 

thats just the begging of the problem me and this young lady went on holiday together this year and i had my first experience with a women needless to say it wasnt hers and she has no problems hiding this fact. Ok now it gets even more complicated i am engaged and me and my friend told him the truth which he quite liked the idea of at the time and to get starigfht to the point we had a threesome.

 

ever since that night my oh has been jealous possesive and hates my friend but i dont i love her and i know she loves me she looks into my eyes and tells me. she would do anything for me. This women is the hardest person to read i mean she thought me and my partner were gonna split up last week and i think she was actually glad but i dont know what she wants.

 

me i love my finacee very much he is one of the most nicest people you could ever wish to meet and i know i have hurt him dearly but he problem between us is her but i just cant give her up i love her also i dont know what it is about her she has just had this massive impact on my life and i cant imagine life without her she is the same with me and i sometimes wonder if this is healthy and we are obsessed with eachother a little to much.

 

i dont think my frind wants a relationshop with me i think her feelings are like mine and she just doesent understand her feelings towards me. her sexual orientation is bi by the way incase anyone was wondering.

 

we are going away together for 2 nights next week my partner is ok with it as he says he treust me i just cantr help these feelings i have towards her i dont know what to do my heads a mess im asking myself am i in love with her or is this just an infactuation i catch her looking at me all the time in my eyes when we are talking at my chest shes always commenting on my breast and how big they are. I guess i probably do the same to her, she told me that i was the one who turned her on in the threesome and she is always joking withme stuff like she spilt a drink on me and said ill lick it off.

 

ive never had this sort of attention of a women before and i dont know how to handle it we are still best friends but i dont know if we have crossed the boundaries of friendshipso much and i dont know if she made a pass at me on our little holiday if i would be able to resist.

 

sorry this is so long my heads a mess this women has really affected me and i just dont know what to do!!!!!

 

any advice or anyone who has been in a similar situation would be greatly appreciated thanks

[norajane]

WHY are you going away with her? Don't you think that there's enough confusion and complication as there is without adding overnight trips to the mess? Why put yourself - AND your fiancee - in that position?

 

You are lucky your fiancee didn't dump you when you cheated on him - yes, having sex with another woman is cheating, too. And then you went and had a threesome?

 

I think you need time away from this woman in order to better sort out what kind of relationship you want with her. As you said, there's something obsessive and unhealthy about it.