Burst365 Posted December 4, 2007 Posted December 4, 2007 Hello im new just signed up!! hi!!! lol... well here is my story its kinda long and i hope someone can help me or something!. i hope someone takes the time and reads it, its the only way to understand what im going thru Hello my name is steve and i recently left my "Ex-Wife" because she is psycho (i hope thats spelt right). She has 2 other kids, 5 and 7. her 7 yr old lives with her parents.Me and her have a daughter together she is now 3 months old. I have been with her for about 2 years and married about 5 months. Thru out our relationship we have broken up numerous amount of times, she also treated me like crap, she wouldent kiss me on her own, she wouldent say i love you on her own unless i said it. She wouldent hold my hand in stores or showed she really loved me. During our relationship she would act like she loves me one week and next week hate me or break up with me.. She would say im talkin crap about her, or im just with her for sex. And that i talk to my freinds bad about her. During our relationship i was with her as much as possible. I loved her to death, i thought she was the one. During her pregnancy we had 2 huge fights. One fight happened when she drove her sisters car to california for her. We lived in missouri, now im busting my ass at work to bring in extra money. I get a few texts from her one day im at work. She is like, "Steve do u really love me?" im like of course i do,u mean the world to me.The she was like i dont think we will work out.. im like wtf? im over here busting my ass to make some money for our daughter that will be arriving in a few months. ontop of all this i have saved up some money to buy her an engagement ring. She is like i dont think i love you can we just be friends? Now she is with all her friends in california, her "street" friends.Then a few days goes by and she calls me.. She is like, i finally relized i love you and i dont want to lose you. and when i come back ill be completely different. Now while all these texts are going off on my phone and all the bad crap she is saying to me im reading it to her parents. Her parents couldent believe some of the things she saying to me, because i treated her and her kids with as much love as i possibly could. Ok she comes back from california,that morning she is all happy and cheerful, kissing me and loving me. A week goes by and she is acting like she did before she left. Treating me like crap again. Now she has no job and only income from the state. Im working at wal-mart busting my ass to make us some money to move out of her parents house into our own place. Finally we saved up enough money to get our own place. Everything was going good for about 2 months.During the 2 months she accused me of having another GF, she was like who the hell is sarah? im like wtf? she is looking at my cell phone bill and the number is an california number. she saiid she knows u and "my friend jeff". im like so who cares i cant have female friends? But honestly i dont know who sarah was. Then crap hit the fan, We had another big fight. This time i thought it was over between us. She starts screaming at me, u lied to me u lied to ur Wife. im like wtf? my parents told me everything. So all the texts i showed her parents they or her i dont know turned it around towards me. Then we get over this fight, and her mom gets me fired from walmart. I lose my job and no one gives a crap. her mom doesent care and is like oh well about getting me fired. Now i have no job and i cant afford anything. And that same day i lose my job is the day my wife went into labor with our daughter. So guess what happens? i gotta move our entire apartment out and move it into her parents house.So now i gotta go rent a uhaul van and move our stuff out in 1 knight so we dont get charged for being there another month. As im doing this busting my ass and trying to hurry so i can go to the hospital to be there for the birth of my child. She has her mom go into the delivery room and she watchs the baby be born and doesent call me or let me know she is getting rdy to deliver. so im sad and pissed at the same time. i go to the hospital to see my daughter and guess what her parents say. I dont look happy that she is born.... im like WTF!?!?!??! i was so happy i had a smile from ear to ear. So a few weeks go buy and i find another job at a church furniture factory. im making good money getting paid once a week. man was i in high heaven. 1 month before the baby was born all the sexual things between us stopped.. even after the baby was born. im working at my new job for about 2 1/2 months all of a suddent she starts dressing up putting makeup on, and she never ever does this!? im like ok this is strange. she does this for about a week. and when she comes to pick me up from work she is always in a great mood.. the mood like i just got some if u know what i mean. she was acting funny. then she started to treat me like crap again! like i dont exist.. so i got tired of it, very tired of it. im starting to become distant from her, and i dont have feelings for her as i use to. Now we live at her parents house in the basement.one knight i hear her and her dad talking crap about me.. its her dad talking about me and my wife is not sticking up for me. im tired of it, im so depressed and down. she never ever sticks up for me. her parents have 2 kids of there own 21 yr old and an 11 yr old. so there is 5 kids including my daughter in that household So i get a friend to see if he can drive me to the greyound station so i can leave. he was like ok. so there is $1200 in the bank, i take out 500 just for me and leave 600 for her and our daugther. i leave early in the morning at 648am. im on my way to NYC, she is calling ym mom threating her, having her friends call her she is emailing me threating me. claiming my daughter is not mine and that she has cheated on me with a few guys and when we where in misssouri. and leaving pretty bad msgs on my moms answer machine that im gonna die and gun shot sounds etc... Now im trying to fight for my daughter because i love her and i want her. my ex wife is not a good mother, her 5 yr old never brushes his teeth, he has cavities in them bad, he cant eat with a fork or talk or walk corectly without falling. he was in diapers until he was 4 1/2 and i potty trained him. her 7 yr old cant really talk and his teeth r kinda bad. she shows no love towards her children, no guidance nothing. Once i got to NYC i called my friend who is a Criminal Investegator, in california and i had her run my ex wifes name and her fathers.. Now for the FIRST TIME i found out stuff about my wife i never knew .. she has child neglect, warrants for checks speeding tickets. now here is the bad part. while i was in missouri her parents said her dad lost his SSI - social security income. Because he had a warrant out for something i dont know what it was they wouldent say. they said for killing a judge and the warrant was issued in california. So i had my friend run her fathers name and oh my lord... what i saw shocked me... Her father had a warrant out for not registering in california as a sex offender.... now im in NYC and i cant get my daughter out of that house.i called CPS and there not doing anything!!!. I dont have the money to get divorce papers and to fill for custody on ym daughter. i dont know what todo can someone please guide me in the right direction or what todo. im sorry its long but its the only way to know whats going on in my crazy life.
noturtypicalwife Posted December 4, 2007 Posted December 4, 2007 Well first off ((hugs)). To me this is an instant bad replay. I'm not sure if you mentioned how old you are or her, but I am guessing still kinda young. Heres what I think and I am far from a professional so take it for what you want.. RUN>>>>>RUN>>>>RUN>>>> no just kidding. You need to first tell your mom everything, because honestly she may be your savior in this case. Next go the probate court (court for families) and file for temporary emergency custody based on the ex's bizarre behavior. Save any messages text,email,voice whatever and use those in court if possible. If anyone has been witness to her bizarre behavior have them write affidavit saying such. You need to go to your mom's I assume that is in the same town, because leaving the state or running is no solution, face it head on. As for her I would guess..again guess that she has post-par tum depression or some sort of the such with the behavior. Did she cheat? Only she knows for sure but I would say it's likely so get some tests done just to be safe. Then recognize this for what it is. She is not ready or was not ready for the type of commitment involved in a marriage, for whatever reasons you married those seem to be desolved by just what your saying, so grieve it, miss what you had, but put your daughter first like you said and protect her!
Author Burst365 Posted December 5, 2007 Author Posted December 5, 2007 Well this was all in missouri my mother is in california, and i moved to NYC with a girl i new for about 6 years.. I left for my own safety cuz my ex is crazy. i will fight for my daughter, but she just wont stop harrassing me and stuff. thansk for ur imput ill go to the courts on monday. i dont miss what i had, cuz when i look back on it, it was a waste of my time.. But having a gorgeous daughter that god gave me priceless i guess it wasent such a "waste of time" i got one good thing out of it. thanks for replying!
AHIWON Posted December 5, 2007 Posted December 5, 2007 Wow, that is a mess. I am guessing you are pretty young too. I feel bad for you. The best thing you can do right now is think about things for a few days and calm down somewhat. Do you have anyone you are close with that you can talk to? It helps a lot. Sounds like your wife needs help too. Don't contact her screaming and crying and fighting. It won't help, it will make it worse. If you are to talk at all, you have to be calm and rational. No emotional outbursts from either side. I'd recommend IC for the both of you, then maybe MC. I doubt either of you have the skill set required to work this out but you can learn if you both are willing.
joekurtz Posted December 5, 2007 Posted December 5, 2007 OK mate, straight up. Man to man, alright? No insult meant, but you f**ked up big time by moving to NYC. What are you doing there?!! I know you felt trapped & even threatened by the situation that you were in, but the VERY last thing you should have done is leave that baby girl behind. That was a huge mistake. But, I don't think the harm is irreparable. ESPECIALLY armed with the information that you have regarding her "dear old dad". I'm FAR from an expert on the law, but if that creep is, indeed, a registered sex offender then he's breaking the law by just living in the same household as his grandchildren. Turn his ass in IMMEDIATELY & make sure that your daughter is removed from that household! It's absolutely obvious that that woman you married is incapable of raising her children properly & that she doesn't deserve to have custody of ANY of them. If CPS already has a file on her, then make sure that they know exactly the sort of neglet that those kids are being subjected to. Back to the NYC thing. I'm just having a hard time getting my head around you being there. Why NYC? Does this chick that you moved there with have family/friends there or what? Are you working? What's the situation? 'Cause honestly, I think if you really want to get custody of your daughter, then your odds would be MUCH better were you to return to where she is right now or at least move to where your mother is. Hanging out in the Big Apple isn't going to cut it. Not unless you're in some awesome position with a good job & a place of your own that is kid-friendly & all that good stuff. Know what I mean? If you want your daughter, you're going to have to get all your ducks in a row dude. It's hard work & serious business. Which I really hope, for that baby girl's sake, that you're up to. Sorry if this all seems harsh my friend, but I can't offer platitudes in a situation like this.There's no time for them. And you can't have your hand held through this. You've got to "man up" & do something right away. If you're not in a position right now to take custody of her, there's no shame in that. But, you've still got a responsibility to that little girl to get her removed from that household ASA-f**king-P. Same with those two little boys. The head of that household is a convicted sex offender who has no business being around those kids & your "wife" & her mother are scum just like he is for knowing his history & yet still allowing him to reside with those children. So, blow that whole sordid household in & make sure those poor innocent kids are placed in a safer, more caring environment. Now. Peace & courage.
Author Burst365 Posted December 5, 2007 Author Posted December 5, 2007 my mother lives in california no point.. this girl im with i new for about 6+ years. we always had a crush on each other.. she was my only way out of the hell hole. yes she has family here. and i got alot of support here aswell. im searching for a job and this week im going to court and filling the temp thingie.. btw im 22 yrs old thanks!
Author Burst365 Posted December 8, 2007 Author Posted December 8, 2007 so i found this website and put her dads name in it an VOILA!!! i found it!! http://www.mshp.dps.mo.gov/CJ38/OffenderDetails?id=75745774 check it out thats so sick. i dident know this for a full dam year! deep secrets held from me jeez... and my daugther is in that house, and CPS wont do a dam thing!
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