ilovedetroit Posted May 31, 2003 Posted May 31, 2003 i am a 28y/o gay male who has recently entered into a relationship with a guy i have had a crush on for over a year. at this point, i could not be happier- we spent a lot of time together, share a lot of interests, and he is a caring, beautiful, and genuine guy. we waited awhile to have any sort of sexual relations but, now that we have started, the sex is wonderful and plentiful. we have been together almost two months. i have never been in love before- i came out late and all my relationships since coming out tend to be more sexual than loving in nature. this relationship is the exception to this as sex is important but truly feels secondary. my question is this: how do you really know when you are in love with someone? last night i almost told him that i loved him but i wasn't sure whether the reason i felt compelled to tell him that was because i had just seen him for the first time after an 8 day vacation (the longest we had been apart). the other moments where i almost let "i love you" escape from my lips are those moments where i feel especially close to him - waking up in the morning together, after a romantic dinner, after good sex, etc. i think there is a lot of weight and implications in using the term "love" and i want to make sure that what i am feeling is really love and not just moments where i am blinded by a tender act. one thing that can ruin a good relationship is to move too fast. so... if you people can let me know your thoughts on "love" and maybe share some stories on the moment you knew you were in love with your special someone then that would be awesome. d.
Ryan Posted June 1, 2003 Posted June 1, 2003 i am a 28y/o gay male who has recently entered into a relationship with a guy i have had a crush on for over a year. at this point, i could not be happier- we spent a lot of time together, share a lot of interests, and he is a caring, beautiful, and genuine guy. we waited awhile to have any sort of sexual relations but, now that we have started, the sex is wonderful and plentiful. When I read the above, I find myself at an incongruity with this part: we have been together almost two months. 2 months? You describe this as something with foundation and substance...but it's really just begun. Since this was largely built on your crush, I'd say you are in....fatuation. It is just a tad premature to make judgments about this person's character....much less the relationship you have. Keep chillin.
Kat Posted June 1, 2003 Posted June 1, 2003 I was friends with my b/f before we got together, thus allowing a foundation to be built a lot earlier. We started spending alot of time together as friends and one night we kissed and we never looked back. I think it was about a month into it when I told him I loved him. I told a friend how I felt and her response was "Well duh, we can tell and he loves you too" I was all "Really *big smiles* you think?". No one can tell you how you feel, you just need to know what love is to you. You need to want this guy as he is now and if he never changed you would still want him. I know this is a tad off topic, but from alot of things I have heard about male gay relationship's, they are usually all about sex, and never last long. I do wish you good luck tho *hugs*
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