Star Gazer Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 I was literally FREAKING OUT last Wednesday evening through Saturday over my new relationship. The whole, "I'm in love and cannot handle it" thing just got progressively worse on Friday and Saturday, to the point where I basically cried all day Saturday. Any little thing or thought of BF made me cry. Work issues made me cry. Movies made me cry. Cry, cry, cry. A big emotional mess. I felt irrational, out of control. For a second I even thought, "OMG, I need medication!" Sunday morning I woke up to cramps, my period, and a completely lucid and calm emotional state. My roommate, who talked me through my tears Saturday night, was surprised to see such a turn. Not happy, just okay. Today, same thing. Period's here, emotions are in check. I realize I was the same way last month, and the month before. In other words, it's completely cyclical. I'm on the pill, but it's Ortho Tri-Cyclen Lo. The last seven pills are the weakest, and sometimes during those 7 pills I'll spot. I'm wondering if my hormones are out of whack, like REALLY out of whack during the days leading up to my period. Anyway, part of this is just a rant, but part of me wonders if men really understand the consequences of PMS? I'm not the bitchy pre-period chick, I'm the cry-baby. So... Do women get a little bit of lee-way during that time of the month? Or do you think we're always crazy? Link to post Share on other sites
KenzieAbsolutely Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 i think guys understand that pms is a real concept--in that it exists-- but to them the circumstances surrounding it and the results of it all are still a little unbelievable. like guys and porn. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 In my case, if my bf didn't notice we weren't having sex for a week he wouldn't even know my "time of the month". I'm just a bitch the whole month But from what I have gathered, men understand it is there, but their actual understanding of what it means or is equals zilch. Link to post Share on other sites
KenzieAbsolutely Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 In my case, if my bf didn't notice we weren't having sex for a week he wouldn't even know my "time of the month". I'm just a bitch the whole month But from what I have gathered, men understand it is there, but their actual understanding of what it means or is equals zilch. i do have to agree, i have no experience with PMS, but my understanding of it, i am sure, is still different than a man's perspective. i'm curious some of the answers you get from guys, star gazer. Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 Men learn about PMS early on. I remember my gym teacher telling the boys about PMS and periods, etc...he told them NEVER to ask a girl if it's that time of month if she's being mean to you. He said it was rude and sexist. The boys in my class were confused. So were the girls. We all figured he was crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 I would say yes, after 1 month I figured it out. Not all women are the some, some skip months, and some have their own schedules! :lmao: You can feel the heat, the "meanness", the amore, senile, mental, and dont forget the mood swings, etc... That is when I do the don't ask don't tell and just be my normal self and still go for it, even if she is flowing. :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 Until you've experienced PMS, there's no way anyone can understand it, male or female. It's like asking a woman what a hard-on feels like. They know it's there but can't possibly know what it feels like to have one. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovegod Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 I'm on the pill, but it's Ortho Tri-Cyclen Lo Change your brand of pills. Seriously. When my ex got on a new brand, she turned into a freakin' midnight monster who attacked me in my sleep and bit a chunk of skin out of my arm. Then she'd wake up and have no friggin clue what she did. It was scary as hell. When she changed brands of pills, the midnight monster went away. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 Until you've experienced PMS, there's no way anyone can understand it, male or female. It's like asking a woman what a hard-on feels like. They know it's there but can't possibly know what it feels like to have one. You don't have nipples? My ex had the good kind of PMS. She got into kind of an angry kitten mood. Full of fight, but harmless. Link to post Share on other sites
KenzieAbsolutely Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 Until you've experienced PMS, there's no way anyone can understand it, male or female. It's like asking a woman what a hard-on feels like. They know it's there but can't possibly know what it feels like to have one. that's a better way of saying almost exactly what i meant in my post. thanks, TBF. Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 I have gotten weird PMS lately, as per my thread. I've been thinking I should keep a diary of what I feel and when. I've at least been keeping track of my cycles. One month is much shorter and lighter than the other. Is this because of having two ovaries? Maybe one ovary is bitchier than the other. Link to post Share on other sites
KenzieAbsolutely Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 Maybe one ovary is bitchier than the other. maybe one is bigger, and therefore has more say. Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 maybe one is bigger, and therefore has more say. Speak softly and carry a big ovary. Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 I have gotten weird PMS lately, as per my thread. I've been thinking I should keep a diary of what I feel and when. I've at least been keeping track of my cycles. One month is much shorter and lighter than the other. Is this because of having two ovaries? Maybe one ovary is bitchier than the other. There's actually some seriousness to this- each ovary can cause different symptoms as it ovulates. There's a medical reason for this- I forget it though. It's been explained to me though. I say this because I am HORRIBLE with the PMS. I get near-suicidal a few days before my period. I'm kinda feeling that way now, after a surprising lack of emotion pre-menstrually this month. I know it's all hormonal, but that doesn't help a whole lot when you feel AWFUL. I wish guys could experience this just a little- I try to tell them it's like being ultimately stressed out, frustrated, and angry to the point you feel like you're going to snap- except all over nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 What is so hard to understand about Pack My Suitcase ? Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 I know how you feel KM, although not to the extent of feeling suicidal. I'm sorry to hear that you go through that. PMS has actually made me want to pack my suitcase, though (very funny art). Unfortunately it follows me. I have been keeping closer track of my cycles because I need to remember not to write any emails or take any decisive action when I'm PMSing. Do you get different moods when you ovulate too? When I am ovulating I get ravenously horny. This is why I can't understand how any woman could agree to natural family planning as a birth control method. How could you be with someone you are attracted to, and not want to make love with him when you are at your most aroused? How is that fair to the woman? What a huge sacrifice to make. Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 I know how you feel KM, although not to the extent of feeling suicidal. I'm sorry to hear that you go through that. ........ Do you get different moods when you ovulate too? When I am ovulating I get ravenously horny. I totally get this. I get really frisky too. The suicidal thing is also a mix anger and frustration- I know I'd feel better if I had someone to have a good fight and then make-up f--k with. Or just a wicked wrestling match in bed. Either way, I'd love to be with a guy who didn't mind coming out with a few bruises once a month. Grrr. Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 Until you've experienced PMS, there's no way anyone can understand it, male or female. I agree with this. I don't think men can understand what PMS is really like any more than women can understand what having this much testosterone coursing through your veins feels like and it's effect on a man's libido and aggressiveness. It's all horomones and science. Link to post Share on other sites
tomwiz Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 I understand that I better watch what I say when my gal is on it. Thats about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovegod Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 A man can understand the science behind PMS, but could never understand what it's like to go through PMS. Just like a man can't be more "in tune" with his emotions. If he tries, he turns into a whiny little pansy who cries too much. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 Agree with most of the posters who said that their SO knows it exists, but don't really get it. My BF isn't too bad.... he cops it now and then. Some months are worse than others. I don't think he really buys into PMS as being an excuse, but he doesn't push it, because the only time we discuss it is when I have PMS, so.... as for being horny when you are ovulating- thats biology at its finest! Link to post Share on other sites
LoveLace Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 PMS is the reason why I've heard so many men say "ALL women are psycho"...they know enough to know our hormones are wacky, so they found a way to sum it all up in 1 word. I don't ever know if I should just accept that they are right, or defend all women everywhere. I guess it all depends on what time of the month it is... I myself have noticed that effects of PMS are more prevalent as I get older, as for me symptoms used to be totally absent. But now, I go through extremely bitchy phases and crying phases. Also my breasts are really sore to touch leading up to starting, this was a new thing like just about a year ago or so....don't know why that is but whatever! Matter of fact, they hurt right now!! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 He doesn't let my PMS bother him, infact most of the time he just stays away from me and doesn't push my buttons - He knows what will happen if he becomes a smartass around me during those times! He does sympathize with my physical symptoms though and that I appreciate. The moods however, well - I distance myself from him AND I also give him warning so he knows. To be honest, I would love for him (or any other man) to know what it's like firsthand, for afew cycles - Then maybe instead of saying "Oh it's just PMS" get over it, they'll actually KNOW what it feels like to function or atleast try to function as normally as possible. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveLace Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 Now that I think about it, I don't think i know what a "stable" mood really is anymore! Nursing school + PMS, doesn't mix well... Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 You know... I like women who are PMSing, kinda like playing with fire! It could also that she is a redhead? Don't quit understand it but is kinda fun to play with fire, the burning part is a kinda annoying... Link to post Share on other sites
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