jennyfur01 Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 I swear I don't even know what to do with myself. I'm not suicidal, but everyday I just feel so hopeless and wish i just wouldn't wake up. I miss him It's been 10 weeks since he broke up with me and I can't let it go.
sedgwick Posted December 4, 2007 Posted December 4, 2007 10 weeks is nothing! It's been 5 months for me and I still think about him every second of every day. It took me about a year to get over my last breakup. I hope that in a year I'm feeling better about this one.
MattyTee Posted December 4, 2007 Posted December 4, 2007 I'm sorry to hear that Jenny! I know how difficult it is and I know how hopeless things can feel. To start with try and take your focus away from the need to 'let go'. It will happen in the time it's meant to take. You can perhaps do a few things to make that time go a little easier. I found that at first I would just have to set myself on auto-pilot for little things each day. Get up, take a shower, brush teeth etc. Then little by little I would take that further, I would start going out to a cafe and making sure I was around other people (even if I didn't know them). I would take along a book, a pen and a journal. Sometimes I would sit and read, other times I would look out of the window at the people passing and then perhaps other times I would write a little in my journal. It didn't have to be anything meaningful, if I just let myself go and wrote crap at some point I would start to feel a release. Exercise is a great motivator so if you can, get out a few times a week and maybe go for a brisk walk or even better a run. Anything will do though: swimming, tennis, volleyball - whatever takes your fancy. That will get your blood moving, the 'feel good' chemicals released and will also eat up time without you thinking too much. Once the focus moves from making yourself move on, you'll find that the moving on has been occuring behind your back, just like magic. Remember, this process is like a tide: it will move in waves and things will get better but some days come back to you. Don't be afraid of feeling happy, let it happen if it does. Don't be afraid of feeling sad, let it come and feel your way through it. You're in good hands, keep posting
NoIdeaAtAll Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 I swear I don't even know what to do with myself. I'm not suicidal, but everyday I just feel so hopeless and wish i just wouldn't wake up. I miss him It's been 10 weeks since he broke up with me and I can't let it go. Ditto everything you have said. I keep silently hoping fate would play a hand and then I wouldnt feel any more hurt. Day at a time - that's all you can do. So easy to give advice to folk - but hard when you have to actually take the advice and do it yourself. Keep going - get through one day, then the next.... even tho you dont think you are strong right now - somehow you will get the strength to "exist" each day, then one day you will wake up and start "living" again instead of just existing. I'm hoping my "wake up and live day" will happen soon. I hope the same for you. Take care.
sumdude Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 It's been almost a year since my wife left me.. Still gets me once in a while.. Get out and get busy, do whatever you can to keep your mind occupied.
sumdude Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 I'm hoping my "wake up and live day" will happen soon. I hope the same for you. Take care. Now I'm hoping for more than one or two in a row... Hard not to be impatient isn't it?
NoIdeaAtAll Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Now I'm hoping for more than one or two in a row... Hard not to be impatient isn't it? It would be great to be able to rewind or fast forward....life just 'aint like that unfortunately. You have to experience every day whether you want to or not - which is fine if it's a "good" day and just horribly horribly painful on a "bad" day. We will do it ... try and keep as busy as you can and lean on others whenever you need a little extra help. Keep posting and talk when you need to. Take care.
PinkRibbon Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 3 months here and it hurts like hell. Every day I think about him and everyday I wish he was here.
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