starlite Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 Hey all! So, my weekend was ok. Nothing too exciting. Felt better than I did last Thursday, I was so stressed and having some really negative thoughts. Well, this past weekend I was doing better and then for some reason last night trying to sleep I couldnt get thoughts of my ex with his new bed friend out of my head. (The girl he is sleeping with used to be a friend on mine and is also his best friends ex). I keep picturing things and thinking about it and I tried to retrain my thoughts like RP said but it just wasnt working out so well. It would work for a minute and then BAM come right on back. I do feel stronger. I know that it would never happen for us again, but it has been almost 2 months and I havenent slept with anyone...and he has been. I know it is early. I guess I am going about this is a healthier way than he is because i know he still loves me and misses me and regrets a lot. I really need to keep on focusing on me ONLY! Going back to the gym today (I hope) I brought my gym bag to work with me just in case. I think i will. Any comments? How were others weekends?
niceguy27 Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 I had a good weekend. I have been spending a lot of time with a very gorgeous friend of mine and it may be very very slowly moving into something more. We both had talked about it and said we just need to see where things go. We go to dinner and hang with her roomies. Small things but its a lot of fun. It has been about 3 months since my split. She is already sleeping with another guy (big story about that one) but I have not slept with anyone. Ive had chances but with nobody I really care to get involved with. I feel Im in a lot better place than a few months back. My feelings have kind of been subdued and tucked away. I still love her to pieces but Ive accepted that right now it is over with us and Im kind of cool with it. I even went on a date with a girl from high school that I have not seen in 10 years Saturday. We had a good time and spent the entire night together (I slept on her couch). Then last night I went to get a late dinner with my ex. Yeah...weird?? Not really. We both agreed that we are both too important to just boot each out of our lives for good. When we get together we have a wonderful time and both try to avoid the big elephant in the room (her and the new guy and what happened between them). We both enjoy each others company that we always end up just shooting the breeze for a bit. I think it takes time and a whole lot of introspection to get to where you can accept things are over yet see that other person as someone special to you. And that depends A LOT on how things ended and how deep your connection goes.
funkybassplayer Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 Great thank you, had the company of two wonderful women, and my mate mark (all at different times of course!)
Author starlite Posted December 3, 2007 Author Posted December 3, 2007 Great thank you, had the company of two wonderful women, and my mate mark (all at different times of course!) Two ladies, you stud! Niceguy- That is great you are doing better and you can spend time with your ex and be ok with it. My ex and I spent 2.5 years together and we had a connection...and if it had been left the way it was at the break up i think we could have been friends eventually...but about 3 weeks ago I found out he had cheated on me a few times and well, screw him!!! And it is great you have a new love interest...taking it slow is key!
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