xfess Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 Hi folks I have a situation that I know seems like a long story but I figured if i give all the facts then perhaps someone can analyze and explain what the problem is and how it can be solved if there is a problem to start off. Last week I met a girl from the online personals. We started chatting online last Sunday, Tuesday and Wednesday about each other and she seemed very interested in me. So on Wednesday I asked her out for Saturday night. She was a little hesitant at first because she never talked to me on the phone, so I told her "Lets talk then". So she gave me her # and we talked on Thurday for well over an 90 minutes. She laughed at all my jokes and thought I was very funny and liked that I was a "real guy" (who worked with his hands, and played sports). So again I asked her out for Saturday and she said yes. We also chatted on Friday prior to the date as well and I was really looking forward to the date - we seemed to have a lot in common. So Saturday night arrived and we went to a trendy bowling alley, with an arcade, go-karts, and a bar. So we bowled a few games, had a few drinks, ate, and played in the arcade, I kept making her laugh with jokes, and pushing her buttons driving her nuts in a good way. I was also a perfect gentleman, complementing her, as well opening doors and pulling out chairs for her. She was happy at the fact that I was still funny and charming while meeting her in person and not just when we talked online or on the phone - she even mentioned while bowling that this was the best date (or day -- im not sure what word she said) shes ever had and I was flattered by that. We ended the night at 2am and I gave her a kiss on the cheek goodnite (I didnt want to push it on the first date). Yesterday (Sunday) I gave her a call in the evening to thank her for a great night and asked her if she had a great time as well and she said she did. We chatted for about 20 minutes, before she had to go work on a paper for school. Before we hung up I said "I hope we can do this again real soon" and she replied "I'll pencil you in" in a funny way. Now heres the situation -- On Thursday proir to having my first phone chat with her when she IM'd me I did not see her online (she wasnt listed on my buddy list). I asked her how come I didnt see you online. She repied saying that she didnt wanted to be bothered by other people when she was talking to me - I was thinking that was either flattering or a funny BS reason but it didnt bother me. Now - after I talked to her on Sunday on the phone, I went AIM with a SN that I use for business purposes, and saw that she was online (she doesnt know that SN), but when I switched to my personal SN that she knows about...she wasnt there. If you are familliar with AIM: when you go "Invisible" no one can see you online - friends or anyone else. But if you block someone - the person blocked cannot see you online - so if i can see her with my business SN but not my personal SN, then that would mean that she blocked my SN...right? The only excuse I can think of is that I know shes been busy. She works 8-4 then goes to school/internship from 4-8, she says that she has alot of papers to do and finals coming up as well so perhaps she blocked me so she'd have some quiet time.....but it doesnt make sense - Instead of blocking me why not just say "Im working on papers right now Ill TTYL"? I called up my friend after I discovered this and asked his opinion. He said wait till it happens again and then ask her. I was going to ask her the reason for this but I didnt want to risk ruining this potential relationship that could perhaps form. However I also dont want to be another victim of a girl playing games with me. I have been very confused about this for the whole day now. She seems very interested in me and loves my sense of humor, but why block my SN online??. Am I just worrying about nothing or is there something wierd. I am very sure she will talk to me online tonite after school but this question is still running in the back of my head..... Im hoping to get some good feedback and opinions from everyone here in the forum and I will keep you updated either later tonite or tomorrow if she talks to me
Dynamo Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 This is a shot in the dark for me because I personally don't use IM programs, but perhaps when you logged off your business account to hop onto your real account, she logged off before you could get on the account she knows? I dunno, it's a possibility I suppose.
PuppyLuv Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 it seems like maybe she did block you. now the only questions is why. maybe she really is busy and doesn't feel like chatting online right now. and specifically to you b/c she knows she gets caught up in long conversations. Do you have her phone number? Like is she refusing calls to? Because if she was not taking calls AND blocking you on AIM it would sound to me that for some reason she decided she wasn't interested anymore. I'd say give it a few days. Its finals time...students everywhere are going completely bonkers right now. If in a week or so she is still blocking you, it might be time to move on.
Author xfess Posted December 4, 2007 Author Posted December 4, 2007 Replies: Dynamo - no she did not log off because I ran both my personal and business SN at the same time so the Business SN showed her online while the personal did not. Puppyluv - Yes I do have her phone #, we chatted on the phone at 9:15 pm for about 20 minutes on Sunday (yesterday - the date was Saturday night) and she seemed to enjoy talking - she was laughing at my jokes, and she needed to get to her paperwork, so i said she should go take care of that and Id talk to her later. As I mentioned - I said to her "I hope we can do this again real soon". Her birthday is Wednesday and I was hoping to take her out either saturday night or sunday to a dinner and a movie - so Im hoping to hear back from her. I know that she sas alot or work to do since she's getting her masters and I can fully understand that. It just seems wierd that she's blocking me for some reason.
OceanBlue Posted December 4, 2007 Posted December 4, 2007 I use a couple of different IM programs. I rarely block people but I will go invisible if I don't want to be disturbed. If I do block someone, it is usually because I want to talk to someone else in particular and it is easier to block others and be online so the one I want to talk to can see me. There is one 'friend' that I think plays games. Going invisible instead of signing off when we are done. Signing on right after I sign off to see if I'll come back. Signing on many times in a short time period to get my attention. And he caught me when I was invisible once - I responded to his message even though we had just finished talking and I said I had to go. You have her number. I'd just call.
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