room for baby?

[fluffy0]

I have a question for all of you out there that have had children.

 

My husband and I are expecting our first child in a little more than two months. Currently we live in a very tiny one bedroom apartment. We have been thinking about getting a different apartment (we rent) with two bedrooms. It's just that our apartment is so small, there is barely room for our stuff, and i think with the baby coming it will become very messy. However, I have heard from other moms that babies and parents usually sleep better if they are in the same room together. I will be breastfeeding (hopefully, if everything goes well) so I can see how it would be easier to not have to get up and walk to another room to feed my child or worry about him because I can't see him. But then I think about how it might be kind of stressful to have him in our one-bedroom apartment because of the space issues. Also, I think I would feel weird having sex with my baby in the room, even if it is a newborn and he is sleeping.

 

I am not sure what to do. We have very little money and getting a two-bedroom would be cost more, so I don't want to do it if that second bedroom is just going to stay empty and he will sleep in our room. I also don't want a bigger one bedroom right now because a lease is 12 months and i think by that time he definately will need his own room. Please give me some advice, is it important to have a "nursery room" or should I just stick with what we have?

[WaterTiger]

First of all....RELAX! Enjoy the birth of your new bundle of joy! Keep him/her in the same room with you to make breastfeeding easier for the first year. As you come to the 9 month mark, take your time and carefully go over your budget & see if a 2 bedroom is in your future. I think 14-18 months is a good time to move them to their own room.

 

 

 

P.S. The baby doesn't care if you have sex in front of them. They will NEVER remember and it will not "scar them for life".

[Lostgurl]

First, congratulations!

 

If i were you, I'd wait on getting a bigger place. It's best (IMO) to have the baby in the same room with you for the first few months. Chances are, if you do opt for the bigger place and put him/her in his new room, you'll probably end up sleeping with him anyway and the room will go to waste for the first while.

 

We are expecting our baby in 5 weeks, and have a 3 bedroom house. But we are planning on having his crib in our room for now and moving him into his own room when he's about six months.

[JamesM]

Having had four children, I can agree with the above. Wait...don't rush. Certainly for the first six to nine months, you will be fine. In fact, as long as a crib fits in your room, you will be fine...as far as the baby goes. But..it will be up to how long you can handle the baby in your room. Our first one slept in his own room, but he was colicky and cried a lot. Our second one slept with us for a few months, but then he was in his own room. I cannot remember the third one, but the fourth one was with us until he was about eight months, because he had a breathing issue and we were paranoid that he quit breathing. (He was on a monitor, but still...).

 

The deal that you need to have the baby room ready before the baby gets home is great for movies, but it is not always reality. Babies don't care...the room is for the parents.

 

Here is the one main reason...where will the baby go when he or she needs a nap and you have company over? Where will the baby go when you need time alone, and he or she is crying? What if you want a nap and the baby needs one? These are the kind of issues for which you will need solutions.

 

You will need a second room at some point, but there is plenty of time to move after the baby is born.

 

And congratulations! It will be a life changing event in many ways good and bad, but overall, you will be happy...at least I have been.

 

Remember this phrase when the baby is crying in the night, or he is fussing during the day...."This too shall pass." Because I can say wholeheartedly, it does. So, when the two of you get irritated with each other because once again the baby is crying and he or she won't quit...take a deep breath and try to remember..."This too shall pass."