PLAYBRAT Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 I have become addicted to reading this particular forum.Initially I was searching for answers to help me overcome my friendship with a MM....and in HAS helped tremendously..but I feel almost like I am becoming addicted to it. In reading so many of these stories it keeps my OWN situation alive ...if only in my head. Grrrrrrrrr...... Has anyone else felt this way? I guess I should probably take a nice long break from this...LOL
Lyssa Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 I have become addicted to reading this particular forum.Initially I was searching for answers to help me overcome my friendship with a MM....and in HAS helped tremendously..but I feel almost like I am becoming addicted to it. In reading so many of these stories it keeps my OWN situation alive ...if only in my head. Grrrrrrrrr...... Has anyone else felt this way? I guess I should probably take a nice long break from this...LOL In the beginning I would say I was addicted cause I was looking around, reading up on some of the 'problems'. I only concentrated on one particular category. The more I read, the more it brought me down. Not so much from the BS (which honestly, looking back they were helpful) but sometimes from some of the OW. Few months back, I started reading other boards and posted now and then. Lately, I've been getting busier so I'm not here as often as I used to be.
Mino Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 I have become addicted to reading this particular forum.Initially I was searching for answers to help me overcome my friendship with a MM....and in HAS helped tremendously..but I feel almost like I am becoming addicted to it. In reading so many of these stories it keeps my OWN situation alive ...if only in my head. Grrrrrrrrr...... Has anyone else felt this way? I guess I should probably take a nice long break from this...LOL me too, I come daily
Citizen Erased Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 I have my moments with LS. For the past 2 months or so I have been visiting more then I should, but I will probably be taking a break sometime in the pretty distant future
Author PLAYBRAT Posted December 3, 2007 Author Posted December 3, 2007 Lyssa in what way would reading bring you down? For ME..it makes me angry....at MYSELF mostly...just for having spent SO much time pining for someone who was feeding me lines for his OWN benefit.How I accepted SO little but was willing to give so much.....yeah...it does NOT make me feel proud. I can truly see WHY the BS's feel the way they do....and I think the only reason I can is because our "relationship" never became a fill fledged affair....though it came pretty close.
OpenBook Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 I have become addicted to reading this particular forum.Initially I was searching for answers to help me overcome my friendship with a MM....and in HAS helped tremendously..but I feel almost like I am becoming addicted to it. In reading so many of these stories it keeps my OWN situation alive ...if only in my head. Grrrrrrrrr...... Has anyone else felt this way? I guess I should probably take a nice long break from this...LOL Yeah, I'm a LS addict. But it has helped me SO much, in particular to sort out some things that were churning over and over in my own head. I feel like I now have a much better grip on the situation, having "seen" it from all angles here on LS. If I hadn't gotten access to this insight, I might have repeated past mistakes by now. It's been a godsend.
Lyssa Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 Lyssa in what way would reading bring you down? For ME..it makes me angry....at MYSELF mostly...just for having spent SO much time pining for someone who was feeding me lines for his OWN benefit.How I accepted SO little but was willing to give so much.....yeah...it does NOT make me feel proud. I can truly see WHY the BS's feel the way they do....and I think the only reason I can is because our "relationship" never became a fill fledged affair....though it came pretty close. That was middle this year - lol - can't remember who or what was said that brought me down. Like you, I was angry too but I figured, it's my relationship. I'm the one in it so not everyone can actually relate to it 100%. I may not agree with some of them but I did take their advice into account. I look at things differently now that my BF has left his M. It is something they both can't work on anymore. I learned a lot from the BS and also OW side.
head.heart& hand Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 Seeing that I've had some extra time on my head, heart ( ok, well maybe not my heart), and hands, I'm feeling a bit like that as well. I would imagine I'll be here through the month quite a bit, yet after that, I'll look forward to a break from the luh-huv shack ( am I the only one who thinks of that late 80's song)? I'm already feeling a bit anxious to addresss some creative tension as my mind is feeling like a warehouse of surplus imagination (in which I finally have some extra time to address some things). Between reading posts, writing posts, reading books, chatting with friends, staring at the ceiling at night thinking about "this", writing letters to my exmm in my head, etc... I want to make sure that my current obsessiveness with the break doesn't become one in which the "cure is worse than the disease". Oh, I'm sick and brokenhearted over my mm and miss him terribly, yet I want to move forward with confdence and a healthy perspective. I read a post recently in which someone signed off for a while as they explained that the whole LS scene was becoming too depressing -- I can see how that could happen so we should BEWARE of this funky little shack.
whichwayisup Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 You need to go NC with the OW/OM section and stick to the other parts of the board that don't make you drift back into the past.
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