ImThinkingWTF Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 if you had plans with someone and you hadn't heard from them would you text them or call them to ask if everything was still on? or not say anything to gauge their interest? if you dont contact them before hand...and they do stand you up...what would be your next step? would you ask them why they stood you up? Have you ever stood someone up? have you ever been stood-up? why in the hell do people do this to other people??
Dynamo Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 if you had plans with someone and you hadn't heard from them would you text them or call them to ask if everything was still on? or not say anything to gauge their interest? if you dont contact them before hand...and they do stand you up...what would be your next step? would you ask them why they stood you up? Have you ever stood someone up? have you ever been stood-up? why in the hell do people do this to other people?? Personally, I let someone stand me up one time. Any more then that and I forget about them. If I can take time out of my life to be with them, then they sure as hell better be able to do the same or I don't even want to bother with them. Is this the first time it's happened? Remember, there are always flukes; someone they know could have been hurt, or someone didn't show up at work so they had to work a double shift.. Find out the reason and then decide if it's valid or not to you.
curiousnycgirl Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 I would text them to see if you were still on. If they don't answer I would make alternate plans. If they eventually called, sure I would ask for an explanation - and then decide if it was acceptable to me. Standing someone up is the height of rude and I cannot understand why anyone would do it, or think in any universe it is acceptable, unless they were bleeding or dying.
EYECANDY000 Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 if you had plans with someone and you hadn't heard from them would you text them or call them to ask if everything was still on? or not say anything to gauge their interest? I would text them before hand and ask is we still on for the night and where should we meet up. if you dont contact them before hand...and they do stand you up...what would be your next step? would you ask them why they stood you up? If i dont contact them before hand and i assume that since we discussed everything previously and it was no way that they could get confused about anything, and they stand me up I wouldnt call. I would only call if i had to come out my house, get in my car, drive a distance, go to the meet up spot, and sit there for what seems like hours. To me I dont think I would give them the satifaction of knowing why they were so inconsiderate that they couldnt even text me to say they have changed their mind. But of course, anything can happen! so maybe something tragic has happened and they werent in the situation to call.. I can defiantely understand that. So I would wait for the call the next day or whenever they decided to call and see what their excuse was. Have you ever stood someone up? have you ever been stood-up? From what i can remember I have never stood someone up! and Ive never been stood up, so far why in the hell do people do this to other people??
desertguy Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 I have never stood anybody up, or been stood up either. If someone ever did this to me, it would be VERY unlikely I'd ever contact them again, unless there was a very good reason. That is just EXTREMELY rude. If you make plans a few days in advance, it doesn't hurt to call or text to confirm a llittle time before though.
oppath Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 I've been stood up. I've also had miscommunication. Now, I just text a couple hours before and say "still on for so and so at 8, right? So you then." If you are the girl and the guy asked you out, it is ok to ask this just to confirm if you are worried about it.
Author ImThinkingWTF Posted December 3, 2007 Author Posted December 3, 2007 well, im stubborn, so...if i have plans with someone I will refuse to text or call them. Ive never stood someone up...or been stood up. though, i tend to jump to conclusions...haha...or maybe im just negative...but, i always think im going to get stood up. which was the case today.
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