Breed Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 As you may or may not have followed my circumstances bascially: Had a break with gf, after 2 weeks she called of the relationships stating we need time to focus on ourselves. Now, I know I need to have time away from her and I know it's only a matter of time before I get a nasty combination of lonely/hornyness. So question: If you had left your boyfriend to sort yourself out with the possibility of a reuinion in the near future, how would you react to knowing he was getting his end away with dirty slappers? (No strings etc)
SunnyLady Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 As you may or may not have followed my circumstances bascially: Had a break with gf, after 2 weeks she called of the relationships stating we need time to focus on ourselves. Now, I know I need to have time away from her and I know it's only a matter of time before I get a nasty combination of lonely/hornyness. So question: If you had left your boyfriend to sort yourself out with the possibility of a reuinion in the near future, how would you react to knowing he was getting his end away with dirty slappers? (No strings etc) Well she left you so you are entitled to do what you so desire. However placing myself in her shoes and hearing my significant other slept with a prostitute (that's what a slapper is right?) would indicate the end of my relationship with him. Maybe i personally have very strong views againt prostitution but i am not going to be involved with a guy who gets it on with prostitutes or pays for sex. That is my honest view. I coudnt possibly get intimate with him after knowing he has been with a string of prostitutes. Its a big turn off for me. It's nice to see a guy with a bit of restraint you know? Its an indication of his commitment and respect for me (assuming your priority is reconciling with her). When you see a man rushing off to have sex with a prostitute and paying for sex it just gives him this desperate and unappealing look. Its nice to have a man who is "exclusive". Hope that helped :-). Of course she may be more liberal etc. So our views may vary.
Author Breed Posted December 2, 2007 Author Posted December 2, 2007 No slapper is not a term for prostitute. Thanks anyways.
iwanttolive Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 Then what's a slapper? Any willing party?
SunnyLady Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 Ooops! My apologies. Do you mean a hoe then? Someone who sleeps around although not for money...?
colorfulbutterfly Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 So question: ...how would you react to knowing he was getting his end away with dirty slappers? (No strings etc) My number one concern would be the FEAR to catch an STD. Some of them are incurable...Oh my Major deal breaker!
BettyBoop Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 My friend had a break with her ex-fiance to see wheter or not they'd want to get back together. He slept with a girl they both knew during this time and the moment she found out she told him she never wanted him back. I think it doesn't matter if you are on a break you are entitled to have sex with anyone, because you're no longer in a committed relationship...but if you do, and she finds out, she probably will wonder how you "got over her so soon" and refuse to want to get back to you.
Summer_guy_uk Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 My friend had a break with her ex-fiance to see wheter or not they'd want to get back together. He slept with a girl they both knew during this time and the moment she found out she told him she never wanted him back. I think it doesn't matter if you are on a break you are entitled to have sex with anyone, because you're no longer in a committed relationship...but if you do, and she finds out, she probably will wonder how you "got over her so soon" and refuse to want to get back to you. That seems to be the general concensus when I ask my girly mates. However dating can be seen as healthy and while not quite moving on it does put more value on yourself as other women are obviously interested.
niceguy27 Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 I recently found out my ex has started sleeping with some dude just under 2 months from being away from me. Its been a total of 3 months now since we split. I have not slept with anyone yet as I am still not over her completely. Her and I both came to the consensus that it was bad timing for us so whatever we do is our business. If we were to get back together...I would not hold anything over her while we were apart. As hard as it is, try not to focus too much on the whole sex thing. We are all adults here. Dont volunteer any info to her if you get back together. Plus, if you two truly love each other, you will forget about anything that happened while apart. Some people deal with things differently so it is not a good indicator of them "moving on" too soon.
Summer_guy_uk Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 I recently found out my ex has started sleeping with some dude just under 2 months from being away from me. Its been a total of 3 months now since we split. I have not slept with anyone yet as I am still not over her completely. Her and I both came to the consensus that it was bad timing for us so whatever we do is our business. If we were to get back together...I would not hold anything over her while we were apart. I admire your maturity, I don't think under similar circumstances I would be so level headed. If I found out my ex was messing around while she was "Sorting out her own issues" I would be...upset to say the least.
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