random_person Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 OK so this is my story. i am a young guy who just recently started my first semester at university and im not likeing it at all. its a totally different environment and im finding it hard to make the transition from college. But what sucks even more is that i've fallen for this guy and i don't even know how to deal with my feelings. He's a really thoughtful and intelligent fellow ( about 2 years older than i am) , i can see this by the way he talks to people and answers questions in class, so i geuss i wouldn't have a problem striking up a conversation with him. But that's IF i can make it happen. I have this problem where i always tense up when he's around out of shyness. We used to run into each other at the snack booth before class and i would always see him looking at me from across the hall even when there were many people around. BUT heres my problem, i would like to know what i can do to muster up the courage to talk to him. Because , you see, ive had many chances.....there were many times when i would be sitting at some random place on campus thinking about him , and he would always show up and walk past me. There were also times when we would be sitting a few feet acros from each other smoking cigs and not once did i get up and talk to him. I wanted to use the " can i buy a smoke off you?" question as an excuse to talk to him, but that has been shot down since he doesn't smoke anymore. Another problem im having is wondering if hes into guys or girls/guys. I started having my suspicions during the first week of class when he came in wearing a pink T-shirt and overhearing a girl sitting next to him asking "no boyfriend yet?" and i turned around just in time to see him responding. ( i haven't seen him wearing the pink shirt since). So i don't know what to think.... he does not act like a stereo typical gay guy , yet nothing he does convinces me hes 100% straight. .i don't see him chasing after girls either.in fact, he's got a deep voice and anyone would probrbaly assume hes hetero. So please tell me...... what can i do to stop myself from looking away from him when hes looking at me, or how i can approach him and start a conversation in a way that doesn't seem like im trying too hard , and also... how can i subtly let him know i like him without blowing my cover? I would really appreciate it if i got some advice on this , because i feel like this is getting ridicoulous , i feel like i should stop acting like a highschool girl and be more mature and upfront about it. Thanks for your time
crazyinlove123 Posted December 14, 2007 Posted December 14, 2007 hey there Random_person! well one idea is if you guys have some mutual friends.. u can invite him out with ure friends-- possibly dance club. go out wit some girls and guys and there you can see what he "prefers" if hes more interested in guys or girls? I mean its ure first semester of 4 years of college.. i just graduated and I regret not taking any risks. you should def go for it and jus talk to him.. especially since u guys are taking a class together.. see if he wants to study together.. get a study group going! there's gonna be a lot of guys during the next 4 years. don't hold back!
Cheery Cherry Posted December 15, 2007 Posted December 15, 2007 I know that you're agonizing over this but I can't help it but to smile and feel all warm inside. Those feelings go away as you get older and settle down with a certain person...I mean not completely but it's never the same. Have you thought of just passing him a note? How about pretending to not get some assignments that you get in the class that you are both in and asking him for help? He may be just as shy as you are, it's better to find out then let the possibility slip away.
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