ladykatie Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 My SO and I are working through reconciliation after my discover of his EA and near PA. While he is doing everything "right" it's like I can't get over it and I just want to give up and break up. After discovering an affair, physical or emotional, have any of you started reconciling and then changed your mind? Have you broken up and then regretted it?
ICallsEmAsISeesEm Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 I've often heard and read that no major life decisions should be made in the immediate fall-out of discovery. Your emotions will be all over the place and you won't be adequately equipped to make proper decisions. That doesn't mean your feelings are wrong in that you feel the hurdle is too high and that perhaps you'd just like to call it a day and split up. Those are your feelings and you own them. I do, however, want to caution you that it's very rare that you get the whole truth upon discovery. Most of these cheaters will tell you that it wasn't physical and try to downplay it as much as possible - it's ALL ABOUT damage control right now. Down the road, alot of betrayed spouses find out differently. So prepare yourself for more of the 'truth' to eventually trickle out.
Curmudgeon Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 After discovering an affair, physical or emotional, have any of you started reconciling and then changed your mind? Have you broken up and then regretted it? ...I hung-in there and put it behind us. The second time I divorced her. Wish I had done so the first time. Would have wasted fewer years with her that way.
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