westerner Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 This is an update to a post I made about 2 weeks ago titled "Not willing to give up on this girl". Basically, I was looking for some help about a girl I am totally into who I spend a lot of time with and talk to frequently. The problem was, she had a boyfriend. This has been going on for nearly 2 years now, and knowing their relationship was on the rocks so to speak, I pretty much just listened to her and supported her where I could. She did know I had feelings for her as I had professed them on more than one occassion. I've been to several of these forums online and there was a very small percentage of people who gave me any chance at all with this girl. Even I had pretty much given up hope.... until yesterday. She came into my work, as she does quite often, but she told me her and her boyfriend had split up. I was thrilled, but I asked if she was going to be ok and things like that. We talked for quite awhile and she said she was going to go out of town for the weekend before adding, "Since you haven't asked me to do anything". I was floored, but I didn't waste any time to ask her to do something. We made plans, but I knew it may not happen because this girl has children so she'd need a babysitter. She called me a few hours later and said she couldn't find a babysitter and her now ex-boyfriend was going to have to come over to pick up his stuff anyway. Worried about her, I asked her to call me after he had came and left, which she did. It appears that their relationship is finally over, but I know it's just ended. So my question is, where do I go from here? I am on the doorstep of getting what I've wanted with this girl for 2 years, and I want to make the right moves in order to get that. So, should I ask her out again next weekend or should I give her a little time to get past this guy? I would greatly appreciate the input anyone has to offer.
Mezzi Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 She has a boyfriend. Plenty of other fish are in the sea. Leave this girl alone, arent you tired of waiting? Over two years lol you need to find someone new.
Author westerner Posted December 2, 2007 Author Posted December 2, 2007 She has a boyfriend. Plenty of other fish are in the sea. Leave this girl alone, arent you tired of waiting? Over two years lol you need to find someone new. She is NO LONGER with her boyfriend. Did you even read my post?
Krytie TV Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 You're in a weird area. If you two even do go out at all, prepare yourself for a rocky ride. This is the classic rebound situation. Two weeks of dating followed "I'm confused" and a subsequent request for "time". At that point, she'll probably get back with her ex. I don't claim to be able to predict the future, but it's such a tired script that plays out over and over again. Just prepare yourself for this.
Dynamo Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 Yeah I think you may just be the rebound guy, Westerner.. Before going out with her, ask her if she's really over her ex and if she thinks shes ready to date or if she needs time. Get her to think about it.
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