Frankie24 Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 I met the guy of my dreams in August. We had both come out of long term relationships in Feb he has a small child to his ex. Everything has been amazing up until last night. We went for a few drinks and he started mumbling on about something when he came to mine. I asked him to spit it out all he could say was he couldnt and that really upset me as I have an idea what was coming next. I asked him to leave and i was extremely distressed he heard me crying in my room and eventually gave in banging on the door. I text him after i composed myself just to say good luck to the pair of you and i wish you all the luck in the world and not to text me back. I had thought this is the first xmas away from his child and he must have been thinking about it which any guy would. He text me this morning so say he had to try and get his child back and the only way he could was to ask his ex back out who unfortunately told him to get lost 'or so he says'. I said i would never stand in the way of them to getting back together and ive said this throughout. And he text back that he loved me and he knows he's blown his chances of happiness with me but he missed having his child in the house and that i would be happy to know that his ex wouldnt have him back. I text to say i dont get off on other people being hurt and that I think is ex made a good decision as they split for a reason. Ive heard nothing since and its doing my head in as well as being confused I have no idea which way to go. I did the wrong thing and text him to say I hope he and his ex work things out, shes 1 lucky girl and thank you for the past 4 months. Just dont know what direction to head in now im lost, lonely, confused the general shabang!!! Any pick me ups or advice in if you think its worth getting back together would be greatly received J x
Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 in my opinion never get into a relatioship with a guy who has a baby with their ex....first of all because the exs are sneaky and they are selfish when it comes to having their xs baby..they want the baby to "be happy" and have his parents toguether...that womene will still have some feelings for that babys kids either resentment or still love...unless they have found another person and thats when you can be a little calm because you know shes wit someone else..there will always be contact between the bf and the x due to the child they have.... it is sort of stupid and selfish what he did to you..leaving you to get his ex back so he can get his baby back????what the hell???that is very selfish if you ask me...he didnt think about your feelings i mean yeah theres a baby but you love him and he just left you like that...and he thinks that the only way to get hs baby back is by getting back with his ex????that is very stupid...thats like blackmailing..hes being blackmailed by this girl..be strong...if he comes back to you act like you dont care because you shouldnt let him deal with is own problems if their fixed and want to be with you tell him that if there is a next time as to what he did to you before that you are definetly not going to be waititng for him like a dumbass and taking him back just because things didnt work out for him and his ex...althou its all up to you if you decide you want him back....do the right thing...
kymberann Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 Don't play in to the games and don't play them yourself! It will make it worse!
Author Frankie24 Posted December 2, 2007 Author Posted December 2, 2007 Your right its not my baggage to deal with in the end ive played my part in being supportive etc but that wasnt enough and im glad to say ive now changed my number so theres no chance he can contact me I think i need some time on my own at present and who knows that person is out there
kymberann Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 Good for you Frankie, I think time on your own can really help. I am doing that now, just tp recover from the emotional turmoil this all brings!
Author Frankie24 Posted December 4, 2007 Author Posted December 4, 2007 Well he's been on crying etc saying he made a big mistake and he wants to chat Jesus im so confused - do i let him say his piece or do i walk away I just want to hurt him so much let him see how its been for me
Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted December 4, 2007 Posted December 4, 2007 lol didnt i tell you he was going to come back to you didnt i tell you?????? now its all up to you...just know that if play back to the game you might end up getting hurt again but you can play the game in a smart way...dont let that happen again dont let him cotrol you and decide when he wants to talk to you and be with you.. hes not in charge of your relationship you know..if he leaves you again..dont take him back thats enough because everytime he leaves and you take him back hes going to do it again and again hes going to be like "oh she always forgives me so i can do it again and i will sweet talk her in to forgiving me and she will because she loves me"....you dont want that...
Author Frankie24 Posted December 4, 2007 Author Posted December 4, 2007 You were right and yes i know exactly what i am going to say!! This coming Friday I am out with my mate Rob who my ex just cant stand as he knows that Rob has a thing for me!!! im not going to play games with him but im not going to be the same lass as before im now a whole lot stronger and what I say goes Its my way or now way Am i being
funkybassplayer Posted December 4, 2007 Posted December 4, 2007 You were right and yes i know exactly what i am going to say!! This coming Friday I am out with my mate Rob who my ex just cant stand as he knows that Rob has a thing for me!!! im not going to play games with him but im not going to be the same lass as before im now a whole lot stronger and what I say goes Its my way or now way Am i being Games is not fair to Rob or your ex, or you.
Author Frankie24 Posted December 4, 2007 Author Posted December 4, 2007 I suppose your right i dont want to stoop to his level me and Rob are good mates, infact he's a best mate nothing more - which he knows. Well im seeing him tonight to lets see what he has to say!! just have to hold my head up high and remember i did nothing wrong!!
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