still cant get over ex and crying

[alexa137]

it seems like so much longer but its been 5 weeks since the last time i saw him or talk to him or even seen him online--when does the pain and hurt go away? i still cry everyday-its like its never gonna stop! everyday things remind me of him-like songs, food, cars, movies, clothes oh my god you name it! i guess because we were so close and it really hurts how he can just completely stop contact with me after how much he said he loved me and i was the best sex he ever had etc..i am missing everything even the fights and all. sometimes i feel like i am just waiting and waiting which i know is wrong--and now i am getting horny! i mean we had sex everyday 2-3 times a day for nearly 1 1/2 years! ive never had the connections i had except with him-it was a whole new level--i miss him so much

i try to go out and i did afew times this past month but i dont get any guys that are interested in me! not online either- and i think i am fairly attractive! ive had a few compliments

i'm not sure if i will ever get over him--i jsut want to go to sleep and wake up and its the time hes looking for me or wanting me back-ive felt this way for over a month- i want to be hypnotized to forget him!

counseling doesnt seem to work- i mean dont get me wrong shes nice and all but sitting talking to someone makes it hurt more and just start crying again- i think the worst part was that i was pregant and has a miscarraige and then he left me--thats so emotional-its just so unexplainable- i am so diffrent and i get hurt easily- i thought he was the one, the one i would marry i had the diamond rings and was so damn happy and now i am so miserable- i want to know why he doesnt try to contact me through the internet anymore-its so hard to do day by day wondering so much about someone who you were intimate and affectionate with everyday for so long and it was my first serious relationship, living together doing things ive never done with anyone else before--and i dont know if i can replace him or date again-, well since no one is intersted i guess i dont have to worry about that! but when will the tears and hurt stop/ive been crying everyday for like 8 months(weve had alot of arguements since march) its was very dramatic and intense--i have like 50 other posts since then on here- i wish i could get hit over the head and get amnesia!

[Scorpio13c]

Hi Alexa,

Who ended it, you or him?

I think the reason he isn't contacting you is because he is trying to heal.

I also think that you need a little healing too

Don't worry, you will feel better quite soon! 5 weeks is still not enough, try 3 months till you start to feel normal again. I'm past 4 months now & believe me, you'll feel a world of difference after that much time!

Please stop crying, as you'll make me feel sad

 

Scorp

[alexa137]

i am a scorpio too! he ended it he actually moved out beginning of august i had the miscarraige middle of august but we still talked alot and saw each other at least once a week for sex because we had an intense lust for each other and couldnt stay away--but it was so emotional because i wanted more like before--i think he left because he couldnt get over on me anymore--he cheated and i found out and kinda gave him a second chance but now the other girl is pregant but who knows if its his or not--but i cant get over him choosing a 17 year over me!( i am 36)hes 25

i try to tell myself that all he told me were lies but it doesnt work--not with all we were through(alot) and the everyday words of i love you and the talks of forever and marriage and him giving me a love ring after just 2 months and then a diamond ring after a year-that really made me think he was the one! ive NEVER had a guy like him before--i feel we had such a connection-what hurts the most is him not looking for me online anymore-he did it for 2 month after he moved out(even though he was with other girl) and he even told me he would get online to look for me and i am saying alot of times almost everyday all hours of the day and night then it ceased to about a few times a week end of sept and oct and sex ceased also and now the last time i have seen him or heard from him was oct 28th 2 days before my bday which he must of forget which was depressing

the holidays are the absolute worst because this was our good times together and i miss him soooooo much especially the intimacy

[randuff]

i miss him soooooo much especially the intimacy

 

 

Are you sure you don't just miss the sex??? You mention it an awful lot. Don't get me wrong I miss sex with the ex greatly too because we seemed so "compatible" Point is, if it really is just the sex you can get that elsewhere......

[alexa137]

no its more than that--i miss everything the closeness the sleeping in bed the rides the dinners the trips to the beach and everywhere else and even the fighting and arguing!

i am too scared to just go out and have sex there are crazy people out there and all he diseases e tc

i went 2 years before him without sex so i know i can do it again even though they were with men i didnt care or loved like i love and care about my ex so that makes it worse too

[Scorpio13c]

Look Alexa,

I'm really sorry you're going through this, but this gut doesn't know what he wants. I think he still has a lot of field playing to do at 25. You on the other hand know what you want & what you need in your life, believe me, this is not it.

The guy cheated on you, left you, possibly knocked up someone else & you miss this??

Time for you to let your inner scorpio take over, we do very well at hitting rock bottom, then transforming into a new healthy person whilst leaving the past, in the past.

You can & will do this, i promise!

Scorp

[MacgyverThis]

Hi Alexa,

You are sounding alot like me right now. Maybe it's because you were single for such a long time and he did lots of stuff to remind you how special you were?

Try and do kind things for yourself and do something to distract yourself, nintendo WII is a good one.

[polywog]

Alexa dear,

Your post got to my heart... I know those feelings all too well, and you have my sympathy. It just Sucks, plain and simple. And you have loads of company here on LS, though I'm not sure that helps. But let that sink in, and you'll feel less alone.

 

I've had a miscarriage, too.... years ago. It sucks, even if you can't fathom it right now. It seems to me that you are being dealt another whammy... not just the loss of your relationship, but the loss of the pregnancy as well. That's exactly what happened to me all those years ago. I had a miscarriage and a break-up at the same time, like you. And your post resonates with those feelings I had then.

 

Maybe it won't help to say this, but I just know, Know, that this awful time is going to make you a stronger more grown-up person. I hope this does not sound too patronizing. I'm just speaking from my own experience.

 

So please, dear Alexa, it's only been some weeks since all this stuff, and naturally you are in a state of grief. It has to happen and pass. And it will, trust me. Be super kind to your sad soul right now. Let yourself be sad without judging yourself. You are entitled, you've been through a lot of loss.

 

And time does heal.... so trite! But also so true! If you look through the long threads of heartbreak here on LS, you'll see. But for now, don't worry about all that. Just take it day by day, hour by hour, and hang in there being sweet to yourself, as much as you like.

 

They say there are no guarantees in life, but I think that there Is One. That time heals all wounds.

[loveinlife]

Im feeling the same emotional pain, its only been only 4 days and i just gave her the Christmas present, a diamond ear ring, the day before she dumped me. In time it'll heal, it'll based on how strong of an individual you are. The mind needs to mend the wounds. Try to think positive and take things slow, one day at a time. Learn to love and care for yourself and love and care will come back to you. Good luck woman, i know its a hard time right now. Take Care =)

[alexa137]

thats all i can do is take one day at a time most days are bad some are really bad-its just so much reminds me of him can be anything and thoughts go through my head all day long(not as much as the firstmonth or so) and they get my crying and thinking alot--i just wish the pain and the suffering would just go away! i feel like i will NEVER get over the hurt!

i cry everyday and i hate myself for it- iwas so much in love with him i mean its unexplainable! and sometimes i feel like i am still waiting for him to come back or just talk to me or look for me or something to make me feel better--i know its not right! i have crazy dreams with him sometimes

the memories (good and bad) wont fade or go away

i dont know if i can ever replace him an i am scared to start dating again(not that anyone has showed interest!)

i just understand why left yet he never told me a reason-he told me i was the best in everything!which doesnt make sense to me

the only think he used to tell me was that i kinda treated him like a mother-but i was only trying to help and i backed away somewhat

i am not gonna go on and on because i have in many other posts

basically i just want to forget the past believe me if there was a pill or someway anyway to do that i would!

[loveinlife]

its tough, i understand. I used to feel that way and it seemed like the pain will stay forever. It did for awhile until i met my recent ex. She took the pain away during a brief period of time. Now im trying to get back with my new ex but i think she made up her mind to leave and be friends for now. I respect her decision yet i am hoping that maybe our chemistry can spark again soon. Gluck

[alexa137]

last week was a very tiny bit better but the past week hasnt been at all

i find myseld still crying all the time being reminded constantly of the ex

can be watching tv, driving, anything! its just so damn painful!

and lately i feel like i am being tortured! i saw his dad at the grocery store the other day who i guess is back with his ex and they live in the bldg behind me and then earlier today i saw his brother and best friend(who is the one whos sister is with my ex now) playing ball in the backyard, i can see out my bedroom window...now why did i have to see that? why couldnt it have been just a few mins later or earlier and i wouldnt have to run into his family? i didnt speak to his dad(pretended i didnt see him and went the other way, felt bad though because i knew him long time before his son(my ex) it just a neverending struggle

i meet a guy few weeks ago on myspace, talked on the phone , emailed a few times, saw him at a bar playing pool, but not gonna be more than friends because he is depresssed too losing his ex and grandmother last month. so hes going through the same things.

my life really sucks being alone-all i do is work and sleep so stressful

i feel like something has got to happen soon or else... either i find a way to completely forget him or what i guess i am wishing for: him to contact me somehow i dont know it would make me feel alot better about myself like he actually cared..i cant keep crying everyday and thinking about him and what we did at this time last year etc... its gonna drive me crazy and insane!