vibe2121 Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 what usually happens when your interested in a person who you have been friends with for a while? because (if you havent guessed already) that is kind of my problem... we are good friends, and i want to tell her i like her, but i'm afraid it will ruin our friendship (she has said that i was her best guy friend, and that would be hard to tell her esspecially after that) and also, me and one of her best friends are really close (she's pretty much my best friend, we've already decided we are going to be friends forever) and would that get in the way at all? if i feel like (if i get a good sense that it would be worth pursuing) then i might post a larger topic with all the details.
PuppyLuv Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 I would say tell her how you feel. Maybe not hands down OMG you are the love of my life. But maybe, hey you know I have feelings for you, do you ever think we could be more than friends? Nothing worst then sitting around stewing in your feelings while the person of interest is completely oblivious. Plus this helps you to move on also. I mean yes still remain best friends but you know and understand that you and this person will not be pursuing a romantic relationship therefore you can leave yourself open to finding someone who shares the same feelings as you do. I have a friend in my life who has been BF's with a man for over 7 years. She has liked him for the majority of those years and has never said anything. She is waiting around for him to make a move. She also has cut herself off from possibilities of dating, and meeting other people. Its a sad situation.
Dynamo Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 I'm sorry man, but I think you are stuck in the "just friends" camp.. I know this all too well. You see, I made the mistake of becoming "friends" with all the girls I'm interested, specifically one I think I literally love, and now they are all either taken or just consider me to be a "good friend". Once your in the friend camp it's hard to break out; they don't want to ruin your friendship or make it awkward when they hang out with you. You can tell her how you feel which would probably take most of the weight off your back, but in the long run it could make future meetings with her awkward, or possibly ruin the friendship.. Now if she's showing signs that she likes YOU, then thats different matter, and you have nothing to lose by telling her how you feel. Good luck man, let me know how it goes (I'm in a similar situation, LOL)
Pedigree Posted December 4, 2007 Posted December 4, 2007 I'll go with Puppyluv's advice. Tell her how you feel. For future reference, my suggestion not trying to be friends with the girl you're interested in. At most an acquaintance or a friend of a friend so that there's sufficient distance.
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