FRIENDS2UALL Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 :confused:I've finally beginning to see the picture, it's never really been about me being friends with this person it's been about her having to have the attention of everyone and if she doesn't she does or saids something to try to put you in a different light with other people. We work together and the people around us are under us as far as authority goes. Well she always brings them something to get their attention and on her side, one situation was this young boy knew me before her for about 3 years and he and I have always laughed a lot but yet when she talks to him until now when she brought him clothing she now calls him her buddy and in so many words told me he is hers now. I don't care about her and him laughing because everyone has their own way of clicking with different people but she has to have all the attention, she has been flirting with me to keep the attention on her so I would not want not to keep working with her, in so many words she has said I'm not her friend. she jokes and gets mean with me a lot but if I slip up and give her own medicine back she gets mad and she has said on occassions she has the right to say whatever she wants to me. If all or one persons talking to me she does or saids something to get the attention again. The problem she has is she buys things for them to like her, I don't or have not done any of that, they like joking and laughing with me by itself, I overheard her saying she misses the guy that has done nothing but been disrespectful to her especially when talking about having sex with her in several different positions, shes married and as a woman which is where I get very annoyed with her is she should not allow it because others around her disrespect when they see him getting away with it which in turn makes her very annoyed with them but not him. I know some may say go to higher authority but when that other person is in the IN CROWD so to speak its hard getting anyone on your side to believe you. ANY more suggestions on how to handle?
Numerouno Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 I see the overall objective as bringing the attention off her and back onto you. Essentially I'd suggest dealing with the other people (not your friend.) Develop your personality to attract the others towards you (read books/websites about this topic.) Have interesting/funny stories or gossip ready so that you can inject them into the conversation when required. Help people with their work. Tell appropriate jokes (including ones about this other "friend."/indirectly make her look bad) Buy things for the others in a subtle way (e.g. buy some delicious food, mention you're not that hungry/full/whatever and then offer the food to the others.) Or, if that doesn't work... Simply squash her head in the fridge and bang it a few times with the fridge door (and then do it again and again and again) untill she gets the message that she shouldn't be such a bitch. Good luck.
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