Fun2BMe Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 I had shared breifly about my crush on a married neighbor. On Monday I kind of flirted with him and tonight I am invited to his home for coffee and dessert by his wife (and of course he will be there). I will be leaving to go in about 10 minutes and will come back to report if anything 'good' happened! Wish me luck.
oppath Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 I hope you return and instead of posting here, make an appointment with a new therapist (not the one you were sleeping with). This sounds unhealthy.
sb129 Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 Oh dear. Fun!!! Just moments ago I was complimenting you for getting things sorted out! Is this visit to your neighbours a good idea? What would you say constitutes "good"??? You really are a glutton for punishment/ drama! Sigh. Be careful, and try not to read too much into anything.
Citizen Erased Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 By anything good, did you mean a 3some? I love you hon
EYECANDY000 Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 Huh? can someone bring me up to speed.. do she have a crush on the married neighbor and the wife invited her over for coffee and dessert?
Touche Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 Huh? can someone bring me up to speed.. do she have a crush on the married neighbor and the wife invited her over for coffee and dessert? Yep, that's pretty much it in a nutshell. Why the ? Just curious...is this a GOOD thing? Some women seem to love trying to get what they really can't have. My theory? It goes back to childhood. If one or both, of your parents weren't ever really there for you, then you're doomed to want what you can't have. It's sad. But we can overcome such things.
EYECANDY000 Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 = a night of redevous for her.. am i saying its right? nope not at all! but if she likes it, i love it Goodnight!
norajane Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 So, let's review: You went back to your ex who might have cheated on you You went back to your unethical therapist you were having sex with You went back to crushing on your married neighbor and are, apparently, hoping to start an affair Do you really not see a pattern? Do you see the multiple car accident looming here?
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RecordProducer Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 On Monday I kind of flirted with him and tonight I am invited to his home for coffee and dessert by his wife Neighbor: Honey, I have good news; your desire for a threesome might be fulfilled this weekend. You know that cute girl, Fun2BMe? Wife: Yeah, I know her, she is yum! Neighbor: Well, she flirted with me today. You might invite her next Friday. Just mention dessert - the meat will be surprise! Wife: Finally! All the other girls wanted just ME, nobody wanted to include you. Promise me baby that you will keep your hands off of her! You can only watch and film it. Neighbor: Let me find a good place to hide the camera.
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 It is so frustrating to see someone you like and have enjoyed posting with over the years get themselves into such apocalyptic situations. I won't wish you luck. You don't need luck. You need some real help, and lots of it. You can be so level headed sometimes in posts to other people, and yet your own situations are so far off the rational radar it isn't even funny. I have always enjoyed seeing your posts, and I like you insofar as someone can like another person on a message board - but I'll tell you this: you don't need support and encouragement to get yourself into yet another emotionally damaging situation. I'm not even sure why you would ask people to 'wish you luck' in going after yet another married man, with all the emotional problems you already have. All I can say is that you will need to preserve some tiny rational part of your mind that you have left there, and keep it safe. That will be all you have to draw on when this crashes and burns like the rest of these situations. I wish I could go there and magically fix your mind and your heart. It is painful to see you get yourself into stuff like this. I can't imagine what must go through your mind. Surely some part of you doesn't like where your heart tends to lead you.
Trimmer Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 I agree with LB, although I will wish you good luck. I wish you the good luck that your neighbor's husband turns out to be uninterested in you, and coffee and dessert ends up being only coffee and dessert. I wish you the good luck that the ex and the therapist you are back together with will do something that will shake you up enough that you will once again see clearly the damage they are causing you, and the good luck that it will not require further physical or emotional harm to get to that point. I wish you the good luck to stumble upon something in your life that spins you around a bit, and the good luck to end up pointing in some kind of a positive direction. I can only wish you good luck to fall back upon, as it seems that good sense is not a part of the equation here.
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 I missed the 'back with the therapist' bit. This is horrible, Fun. Why do you do this to yourself?
sb129 Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 It is so frustrating to see someone you like and have enjoyed posting with over the years get themselves into such apocalyptic situations. I won't wish you luck. You don't need luck. You need some real help, and lots of it. You can be so level headed sometimes in posts to other people, and yet your own situations are so far off the rational radar it isn't even funny. I have always enjoyed seeing your posts, and I like you insofar as someone can like another person on a message board - but I'll tell you this: you don't need support and encouragement to get yourself into yet another emotionally damaging situation. I'm not even sure why you would ask people to 'wish you luck' in going after yet another married man, with all the emotional problems you already have. All I can say is that you will need to preserve some tiny rational part of your mind that you have left there, and keep it safe. That will be all you have to draw on when this crashes and burns like the rest of these situations. I wish I could go there and magically fix your mind and your heart. It is painful to see you get yourself into stuff like this. I can't imagine what must go through your mind. Surely some part of you doesn't like where your heart tends to lead you. Well said LB. Last night, Fun and I were talking about frequent flyer miles and I thought, wow, she seems to be back on track, but then she a) mentioned that she was back with the ex AND the therapist nad b) started the thread about the married neighbour. Fun, you are a smart and obviously pretty successful lady. Why the one step forward- two steps backwards approach to men? It has momentarily crossed my mind that maybe you make some of these stories up for entertainment value, but surely the novelty of that would wear off eventually, especially as there are so many people on here who are genuinely worried about you Fun. I am totally at a loss for words. How someone can thrive on not one but three dramas with men who are inappropriate love interests is beyond me. When I was an OW, keeping ONE A going was stressful enough. I just hope you do what LB says and retain a tiny bit of rationality for when it all comes crashing down. We may as well cut and paste some of our past posts when it does, because nobody is going to be saying anything new to you. Sigh. I really really feel so sorry for you Fun.
underpants Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 You like it. You like hurting others and mostly yourself. It does not sound like you are interested in getting any help to fix yourself. If what you write is true then you are a destructive person. Hands up. IRL, I could never be your friend. Good luck with all the damage. *sighs*
Lyssa Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 I love you hon Love you too, sweetie Fun, Please get some help. You have so many people here who care about you and so disappointed in you at the same time for putting yourself through this. You're inviting more drama into your life!
Ariadne Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 Hey, On Monday I kind of flirted with him and tonight I am invited to his home for coffee and dessert by his wife (and of course he will be there). This is fun! So? What happened? (I'm afraid things didn't heat up for crap). Do you like the married guy more than the therapist? I mean, people usually fall bad for those therapists. Ariadne
Storyrider Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 Fun, you knew you wouldn't get approval here, so what exactly are you looking for? Do you like being "spanked" by us? Does it add to the pleasure, or are you secretly hoping we'll talk you out of this next blunder?
whichwayisup Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 Fun, go to your profile, click on posts by you and read the replies you made to afew OW in the OW/OM section. If you don't stop what you're doing, you're going to go down a path which is going to hurt you and mess you up. I've said all along and I'll say it again, you don't need ANY man right now in your life. You need to find yourself, be happy with you and don't rely on any man to make you happy.
whichwayisup Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 Okay, I kind of went back and read that you went back to seeing your therapist. I honestly don't understand why you would do that after TWO TIMES of realizing what a $#*&^%$!@)*&(^# he is. What happened? What made you go back to your therapist? I'm scared for you...The path you're on is not a good one.
BlueEyedGirl Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 Ok, after reading her threads, I tend to think that she makes some of this stuff up for shock/entartaiment. Maybe they are loosely based on reality, but sorry this doesn't happen even in soap operas.
sb129 Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 Ok, after reading her threads, I tend to think that she makes some of this stuff up for shock/entartaiment. Maybe they are loosely based on reality, but sorry this doesn't happen even in soap operas. She does live in California...... aren't things a little different there?
garnet Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 I agree with BlueEyedGirl, it's impossible for me to believe this is even real at this point. This makes the Jerry Springer show look normal. If by some chance it is all true, this is a deeply disturbed, destructive individual who is not only harming herself, but now with the married neighbor involved, potentially others as well. It's abhorrent.
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