almosthere Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 My crush is still dating someone and for close to two months now I have been worrying about it 24/7. I am a senior in HS, so is she. She is so beautiful/hot/gorgeous attractive to me that even though some think that there are people better looking-I don't see it; to ME she is the most beautiful girl that ever lived, def a 10 in my book. Anyway, the issue is not my looks afaik, its getting her to know I like her. OR figure out whether I long for her or just "lust" for her. I want to seriously date her, and don't just want sex, or even at all for a long while-though I know she does now with her current bf. How to determine what I feel, or better yet-how can I stop thinking about her???? THANK YOU VERY VERY VERY MUCH!!
PuppyLuv Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 Yeah I've been there. Its tough. If you really like someone its hard to just to turn those feelings off. Its unfortunate that the lady you are interested in heart belongs to someone else, but its life. I'd say try dating other people get out get your mind off of her. If they break up, then yeah maybe you can use that opportunity to tell her how you feel. HOWEVER it would be a bad move to try to tell her now considered she has a BF. That could equal: a. him getting uber offended and mopping the floor with you, b. her not returning those feelings and being super annoyed at you for telling hitting on her when u knew she was spoken for c.(the most unlikely) her dropping her chicken dinner and getting with you (the winner).
Dynamo Posted December 3, 2007 Posted December 3, 2007 My crush is still dating someone and for close to two months now I have been worrying about it 24/7. I am a senior in HS, so is she. She is so beautiful/hot/gorgeous attractive to me that even though some think that there are people better looking-I don't see it; to ME she is the most beautiful girl that ever lived, def a 10 in my book. Anyway, the issue is not my looks afaik, its getting her to know I like her. OR figure out whether I long for her or just "lust" for her. I want to seriously date her, and don't just want sex, or even at all for a long while-though I know she does now with her current bf. How to determine what I feel, or better yet-how can I stop thinking about her???? THANK YOU VERY VERY VERY MUCH!! I am in the EXACT situation man (albeit more complicated; the girl's boyfriend happens to be my best friend...) and trust me, you just have to forgive and forget. I know it's hard, I know. I'm still trying to get over her myself, and some days it just seems impossible. I'm crazy about her. But you gotta do it - let their relationship run it's course. Move in once they are through, but be sure to give her a little time so your not just the rebound guy. You can sort of casually flirt with her until then, just sort of let her know your interested. I wouldn't profess your love to her off the bat, but try to give off some "vibes". Hold eye contact a long time, touch/tap her gently while talking with her, be "cocky but funny" around her, etc.. Best regards man. I know a couple members on these boards (Pedigree being one and myself being another) are in the same boat as you, so you can try looking for our threads if you want to see how we've sort of dealt with it.
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