nalbath Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Is there anyone else out there who are afraid of children? I don't know why, but I just can't stand being around them anymore. I don't even like little yappy annoying teenagers.. This is all coming from someone who used to LOVE kids. (I don't hate them, I'm just nervous around them) I use to babysit when I was younger for like five years straight, now all of a sudden I have like this immense fear of them. I don't like having this fear, because I try to avoid places where I know there will be kids. Sounds weird, I know...But is there anything I can do to get over this? Is that normal?
quankanne Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 not so weird, really. I love kids, but newborns give me the heebie-jeebies and I refuse to hold any that are younger than 4-5 months old! I guess the trick is to just kind of immerse yourself slowly with a kid you like, then go from there, esp. if it's been awhile since you've been around any.
Author nalbath Posted November 30, 2007 Author Posted November 30, 2007 not so weird, really. I love kids, but newborns give me the heebie-jeebies and I refuse to hold any that are younger than 4-5 months old! I guess the trick is to just kind of immerse yourself slowly with a kid you like, then go from there, esp. if it's been awhile since you've been around any. Great idea...I'll try that... I did go from like literally taking care of kids everyday...to like not being around kids at all...and my patience in my daily life is going shorter by the day...I have to start working on that. I think that has to be the reason then.
quankanne Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 :bunny: kinda like loving to read, then going to college and *having* to read stuff you didn't care for and it burned you out on reading in general! it's easier to go back to what you were accustomed to little by little. Do you have any friends with kids that you can practice with?
Author nalbath Posted December 1, 2007 Author Posted December 1, 2007 I have cousins who have children, but they live in a different city, plus all their kids are "hell raisers" beyond belief. Maybe you're right about doing something I really had no desire for, because when I was younger (16), I wasn't really asked to babysit, it was ""BABYSIT", because I'm giving you a place to live". Now, I did babysit for this lady (by choice), but I haven't spoken to her in some time now. I'm really tempted to call her and ask her if I can start babysitting again. Plus, I miss my Calmon...He was buddy! Her daughter was snobby, but I can deal with that. I just want to start loving kids again, instead of being so "fearful" of them. It probably has to do with my self-esteem too, because I don't really get out much. But this fear, really bothers me--even more so than all of my other ones.
melodymatters Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 I can't stand hearing them scream! Then stop pinching them auntie Zona !!!! No really, fear, or dislike ?
WIGIRL Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 I don't see it as a bad thing. I can't stand children. I totally avoid them. I walk out of my way to go around them! LOL They're just not for some people. The only point in which I would worry is if they were my OWN children that I dreaded.
Rachel_0814p Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 If it's a phobia-like fear, such as an irrational fear of the number 7, a fear of balloons, a fear of stepping on cracks, etc. then you should be a little worried and might want to seek some mental assistance. If it's just extreme dislike of children in general, don't worry about it! You're not alone. Many successful, ambitious adults despise and avoid children. I know I do it whenever possible. And teens, BLAH! Don't get me started! I avoid them like the plague. (Unfortunately a few of them live in my home. )
burning 4 revenge Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 Well children are kind of creepy in a way, they're very selfish and have no conscience and they look at the world through the pitiless of eyes of youth
Adreanna Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 Well children are kind of creepy in a way, they're very selfish and have no conscience and they look at the world through the pitiless of eyes of youth That actually described my exMM and a few adults in general
burning 4 revenge Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 That actually described my exMM and a few adults in general if he was a MM then he wasn't yours
whichwayisup Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 I don't like having this fear, because I try to avoid places where I know there will be kids. Sounds weird, I know...But is there anything I can do to get over this? You need to talk to someone who can help you deal with your fears, understand why you're afraid or nervous around kids. The type of therapy to look into is called Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. (CBT.) If you don't deal with this, it will get worse and possibly magnify into other fears/phobia's, so please, talk to your Dr, do some googling on CBT therapists and the City you live in, or check your local hospitals, University's etc, that offer this kind of therapy.
Adreanna Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 if he was a MM then he wasn't yours Obviously! I was giving an example. Geez some people.
Author nalbath Posted December 12, 2007 Author Posted December 12, 2007 Thank you all for your support! I really appreciate it! I just wanted to give you all an update. I actually came to a clear conclusion as to why I feel the way I do about kids in general, even yappy teenagers. I'm a very impatient person, and I like things to be a certain way, but when you're dealing with someone else's child, and they do things differently, that can bring about a lot of drama. I'm a very opinionated person, and if I feel something can be handled a different way, then I will speak my mind. Which is why two of my "once" closest cousins don't speak to me today. To me, they're unfit parents. They both smoke weed daily, and party like there's no tomorrow. On top of that, they both have very bad tempers, and they literally "beat" their three year olds. Now me, I'm an educated, sophisticated young lady, and I don't agree with their behavior and the way they treated their kids. So I spoke up. And we got into it, and I don't really speak to them anymore. They were other things too, but I will not be around people who treat they're kids like that. Which brings me to my point. Until I have my "own" children and I am able to raise my children the way I want too, I am not dealing with anyone else's kids. That's why I don't really like being around children, because I know I can't control what's not mine.
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