kitkat289 Posted December 5, 2007 Posted December 5, 2007 she's being soo smart!! There are no crank calls,she's only making an excuse so that you reply to her.It looks like that she's just encouraging you to call her and wants to know how are things going with you and wants to know if she's still so special for you or not...****dy attention seekers!
Author serendip Posted December 6, 2007 Author Posted December 6, 2007 So I explained it wasn't me who has been crank calling her...I even sent her my online phone bills as proof and she continues to accuse me and also says I'm a conartist...she contacts me saying how sad she is...I don't respond and then she emails me and accuses me of BS...I respond in a civil manner and now I get this garbage It is not from Yak. the phone calls are untraceable and happen at bizarre times (since January) that point to you. I have no proof but I know it is you. Please stop it because it disturbs me. (it happened ALOT when we broke up and it stopped for awhile and started happening recently again). I don;t trust your word since you are a conartist who plays and messes up peoples lives over email. I don't doubt you would do the same over the phone. I will get the police to investigate this if it continues. P.S just move on with your life PLEASE...leave me alone How the hell do 2 people get to this point when 6 months ago we were talking about marriage and kids this is definitely the end for us (as far as any contact goes)for good....I haven't responded b/c I'm p-off at her accusations...but this is what I was thinking of saying....once I send it...thats it....what do you think I don't know how we got to this point....but it's really sad. I didn't want my last words to you to be negative but I am disgusted with what you are accusing me of...and how you are demonizing me. It's a little suspicious that you have never mentioned these phone calls to me before in any of your text messages or emails. If you were so angry with me...why would you text me on Monday saying how sad you were with everything that happened with us. That doesn't make sense at all. I did not respond because I've moved on and I don't feel the same way anymore. Then you email me yesterday to say how really sorry you are (please stop apologizing when you obviously don't mean it...it's disrespectful to me and yourself...you've done this too many times) and to accuse me of prank calls. If you really think I am responsible...then all you had to do was call up rogers and have my number blocked. I would have no problem with that. Calling me a conartist who messes with people's lives is a low blow even for you...considering what you did...I've been nothing but decent. I know good people do bad things sometimes. It's not the action (doing something bad) that necessarily makes a person bad. The action after they did the bad thing is more indicative of the depth of badness in a person. (Sorrow, admitting the error, attempt to repair the "badness", etc. as opposed to defensiveness, blaming others, claiming no responsibility, pretense of no error.) I'm glad I found out the type of person you truly are. You can say anything you want to justify your actions...but in the end you still cheated on me when we were supposedly in a committed relationship and I had done nothing to deserve that type of behaviour...in fact I was nothing but loving, generous and kind to you. No matter what I did as a reaction...it was only a response to your infidelity. Your cheating was not a response to my actions because I did nothing to deserve it. I wish you own up to it and take responsibility for your actions and quit demonizing me in order to make yourself feel better..there's no fate, path or destiny...just choices. Your choice was selfish and it displayed your weakness of character. There is no justification for what you did. In the end you betrayed me...that's all there is to it. You once asked me how I could live with myself....touche baby touche. xxx P.S. You don't have to worry about me contacting you because I never want to hear from you again.
Art_Critic Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 P.S. You don't have to worry about me contacting you because I never want to hear from you again. Sending her that email IS contact...It is also begging for a reaction Contact email.. Stop this... Just leave her alone and remove her number from your phone.. When you drunk texted her you opened yourself up for some of this..She has now mentioned the police.. doesn't mean anything that it isn't you cranking her.. she is blaming you.. isn't that your cue to leave her alone ? Don't email her, Text her or call her.. just let it go.. it will blow over very quickly and then you both will have moved on..if you just let it go..
Phateless Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 but everytime I tried...she comes across as not being able to take resposibility for her actions Same with my ex. That's why it's been no contact for a year. Until it occurs to her on her own, she has nothing to offer me as a friend.
Author serendip Posted December 6, 2007 Author Posted December 6, 2007 Sending her that email IS contact...It is also begging for a reaction Contact email.. Stop this... Just leave her alone and remove her number from your phone.. When you drunk texted her you opened yourself up for some of this..She has now mentioned the police.. doesn't mean anything that it isn't you cranking her.. she is blaming you.. isn't that your cue to leave her alone ? Don't email her, Text her or call her.. just let it go.. it will blow over very quickly and then you both will have moved on..if you just let it go.. I definitely don't want to talk to her ever again...but her accusations are false and it doesn't make sense she says all this BS I was thinking maybe a less attacking email I don't know how we got to this point...but it's really sad. Your accusations while untrue are still hurtful...the way you have demonize me is beyond comprehension. You apologize many times to me but you really don't mean it based on this email. You accept no responsibility for your actions and your behaviour is erratic. One moment you text me how sad you were with everything that happened to us. I don't respond. The next moment you accuse me of prank phone calls. I respond. Then you call me names like 'conartist'. It doesn't make sense. I really don't understand what you are going through...it just makes me sad to think that this was once a person I loved very deeply. I know good people do bad things sometimes. It's not the action (doing something bad) that necessarily makes a person bad. The action after they did the bad thing is more indicative of the depth of badness in a person. (Sorrow, admitting the error, attempt to repair the "badness", etc. as opposed to defensiveness, blaming others, claiming no responsibility, pretense of no error.) You won't hear from me again.
funkybassplayer Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 Dont say anything, let her go now. You have nothing to feel guilty for, and if you know that your self, then that is enough. There is no need for you to prove anything to her now.
Kamille Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 Serendip, you are reacting out of emotion. You feel you have something to gain by sending her a final e-mail, but you will only be keeping the door of contact open. You'd only be entering in a futile battle of who gets to have the last word. The fact is nothing you say or do right now is going to change her mind about you and her perception of your actions. None of it matters. Don't say anything and move on. You will be happy that you did a few months from now.
Leoni Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 serendip, I would respond as follows: I drunk texted you the once, that's all I've done and have regretted it since. Have your service provider block the other calls and if it will make you happier, block my number too.
Art_Critic Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 You won't hear from me again. Your email is contact dude.. don't send the email... You will just give her more of a reason ( and in writing no doubt ) to think you are bothering her and can't stop contacting her.. you are also looking for contact and a response from her.. You also will give her something to take to the police.. Stop it ... This will blow over if you let it.. If you don't it won't Why is it that you want to have the last word ?...
LaughMachine Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 ah Drunk texting! the things you say when your drunk hey atleast you didn't break Nc after two years when you were drunk:) haha
Author serendip Posted December 6, 2007 Author Posted December 6, 2007 I just don't understand what is going on with the ex...it makes no sense to me On monday...she texts me this I'm sad about everything that happened with us It was so terrible I don't respond at all...I've moved on...actually I was with someone then on wednesday she emails me I'm really really sorry about everything that happened with us. I still feel really traumatized by the whole situation. Please stop calling on the untraceable number. It gets really annoying. If you really need to talk, call me in person. Otherwise, it is best to just let go of things and move on. I felt I had to respond (which I regret now) to just say it wasn't me...I responded in non-confrontational manner and I even attach a copy of my phone bill as proof It is not from Yak. the phone calls are untraceable and happen at bizarre times (since January) that point to you. I have no proof but I know it is you. Please stop it because it disturbs me. (it happened ALOT when we broke up and it stopped for awhile and started happening recently again). I don;t trust your word since you are a conartist who plays and messes up peoples lives over email. I don't doubt you would do the same over the phone. I will get the police to investigate this if it continues. P.S just move on with your life PLEASE...leave me alone Then she sends me an nasty email attacking me. It just makes no sense at all. One moment she is sad about us...I don't respond...the next she is apologetic but accuses me of crank calls...then the next she attacks me What the hell is going on...am I living in bizzaro world. It just makes me so sad that I once loved this woman so much and now it has gone completely crazy
Art_Critic Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 What is soooo hard about not contacting her anymore ? You don't need to know the why of what she is doing to know that you need to not contact her anymore
Author serendip Posted December 6, 2007 Author Posted December 6, 2007 What is soooo hard about not contacting her anymore ? You don't need to know the why of what she is doing to know that you need to not contact her anymore I'm not talking about not contacting her I'm talking about what the hell is going on...that from one moment she's sad about our breakup 6 months ago(I don't respond), then she's apolegetic...then she accuses me of crank calls(I respond) then....she attacks me it doesn't make sense
funkybassplayer Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 Let it go mate. You dont need to know what is going on in her head. Move on with your life and put that text down to a mistake to learn from.
Phateless Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 I'm not talking about not contacting her I'm talking about what the hell is going on...that from one moment she's sad about our breakup 6 months ago(I don't respond), then she's apolegetic...then she accuses me of crank calls(I respond) then....she attacks me it doesn't make sense You say you're over it and want to move on. If that were true you wouldn't be so obsessed with knowing what happened. The whole point of NC is to just let it be in the past. For whatever reason, she's acting irratinoally and that's reason enough not to be with her. That is also reason enough to stop worrying about it, let it go, and not contact her again. If you never talk to her again (as you say you want to) then all that stuff you keep wondering is a moot point anyway.
randuff Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 Sounds like she just wants some attention. do yourself a favor and don't give it to her.
Author serendip Posted December 6, 2007 Author Posted December 6, 2007 I guess you guys are right but it's just human nature to wonder why the ex is acting like a freak
Phateless Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 I guess you guys are right but it's just human nature to wonder why the ex is acting like a freak Of course it is! But you have to learn to compartmentalize what you want, what you THINK you should want, how you feel, and how you think you should feel... if that makes sense? You have to be honest with yourself about all of these and then you can start to compare and reconcile the differences between them. Next, you have to make an executive decision. "I want this but I can't have it. These are my choices and their consequences. I choose this one." That's how I made the decision to not contact my ex. And as often as I get wasted, I haven't even texted her once. I once had a message on my screen and was about to send it but I thought of how my friends would kick my ass for it and snapped the phone shut. I immediately felt better for my own strength. You got this bro...
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