almosthere Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Alright, another post about my "crush." Getting old I know but I am getting there. So in short (we are HS Seniors) I am selling shirts to everyone at school, she put her name down yesterday for one. Today on the final order form she said she needs two and we decide it best that she just write her name twice but thats irregardless. The point here is that the other shirt is for her boyfriend (well I am 90% sure anyway.) She is still laughing at everything I say and she has a big smile when we talk and we both can't help but laugh whenever we talk about anything. She twirls her hair when we are talking, she never looks away when we are talking etc etc. but she told her friend 2 weeks ago that she thinks she is "in love" with her bf. She may or may not know I like her by now from what others told her. But I mean come on, are these not the perfect most stereotypical signs that a girl likes you? Even if she really likes her bf? Its sick that I worry about her MARRYING her bf (dating for 2 months or so) even though we are only in high school. Is that a bad thing to worry about especially at my age? lol I dont want to invade her relationship but at the same time want her to KNOW I like her. If she likes ME things will work out and if she doesnt at least I know that and can drop it. I think I am going to tell her when she pays to not worry about 1 of the shirts ($20) and if she asks why I'll just tell her "I got it" or something and give her one for free. Again, ideas needed on how to safely/appropriately communicate my feelings for her. DONT SAY how would the BF feel because he was in my exact spot for awhile...
Pedigree Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 But I mean come on, are these not the perfect most stereotypical signs that a girl likes you? Or maybe it's just something she does unintentionally which you translate as a sign because you've got a crush on her. Seriously, though, I wouldn't recommend doing anything that will reveal your feelings to her while she is still in a relationship. I know you're a persistent one, but don't.
Author almosthere Posted November 30, 2007 Author Posted November 30, 2007 Or maybe it's just something she does unintentionally which you translate as a sign because you've got a crush on her. Seriously, though, I wouldn't recommend doing anything that will reveal your feelings to her while she is still in a relationship. I know you're a persistent one, but don't. Well what if she really liked me but thought I never liked her? I mean if I was dating a girl and liked her there could still be other girls I would love to date (more) but don't think they want to, so I stay with my current gf. See what I mean? She aint gonna leave him without knowing I like her no matter how much she likes me.
Pedigree Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Well what if she really liked me but thought I never liked her? Then that would be up to her to get over you and that would be the consequence of you not approaching her in the first place. I mean if I was dating a girl and liked her there could still be other girls I would love to date (more) but don't think they want to, so I stay with my current gf. See what I mean? One would think that if you were to have a good relationship, this kind of thinking wouldn't cross your mind. She aint gonna leave him without knowing I like her no matter how much she likes me. But you don't know if she likes you, you think she likes you. You could try gauging her reaction but she's in a relationship. Bearing in mind that you're in the position of her current BF before she decided to date him, I'd say your best option is to wait.
Author almosthere Posted November 30, 2007 Author Posted November 30, 2007 Then that would be up to her to get over you and that would be the consequence of you not approaching her in the first place. One would think that if you were to have a good relationship, this kind of thinking wouldn't cross your mind. But you don't know if she likes you, you think she likes you. You could try gauging her reaction but she's in a relationship. Bearing in mind that you're in the position of her current BF before she decided to date him, I'd say your best option is to wait. He "went after" her while she was still dating someone else, and she didn't leave her prior bf right away. I need to work on my "game" if you will, except I want an actual relationship, not just to hook up with her. Ive liked girls before that I COULD date but it never felt like it does with this girl, its something totally different-I cant explain it.
Racquel Colette Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 I think you should ask her out and pretend that you don't know that she has a boyfriend. then you'll have your answer as to whether she likes you or not (if she says yes or no).
Author almosthere Posted November 30, 2007 Author Posted November 30, 2007 I think you should ask her out and pretend that you don't know that she has a boyfriend. then you'll have your answer as to whether she likes you or not (if she says yes or no). That would be a good idea except... Her locker is next to mine and he is there at the end of the day (some days) Same situation with cars, parked next to each other, her bf is there sometimes Its blatently obvious for other standard reasons as well Plus, even if I didn't know and asked her she would say no, I could be Brad Pitt and she wouldnt say yes just because she is in a relationship. Especially if it was a real date. Also, why would SHE want to go out with anyone while she has a bf? Even if she didnt like her current bf as she might like me, she wouldnt/shouldnt just go out with me while she is in a relationship. No?
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