mwbmtp Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 well that fact that he even said that about looking at rings... he probably wants to ... just ease up and dont sweat it.. at least he is thinking about the subject! us guys are kinda weird about that subject and have to be eased into it!!
Author Lauriebell82 Posted December 1, 2007 Author Posted December 1, 2007 Thanks for all the input and advice guys..I appreciate it. To answer Norajane's comments. I guess I am making a big deal out of this, it just kind of threw me for a loop when he joked about engagement..because he never does that!!! I guess the reason I'm so curious is that I suppose I like to analyze people because I'm a therapist, so I guess just based on my thinking I think about why people do things, and then try to figure out why they are doing them. It's like second nature I guess because I'm so trained to do that. You are right though, I guess I do need to stop driving myself nuts about the whole thing. I suppose I should take this as a good sing..that at least he is thinking about it now. And we are very happy, so I guess I should let it go. I'm thinkign that maybe i shouldn't talk to him and just try not to let it bother me. If he keeps giving me mixed messages though, I might try to have a conversation with him, mainly for my own information and state of mind about "where he's at." I mean I honestly love him, and am not in a rush to get engaged or married, HOWEVER I'm not going to wait around forever for him to be ready.
norajane Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 I mean I honestly love him, and am not in a rush to get engaged or married, HOWEVER I'm not going to wait around forever for him to be ready. You've been together for a few months more than a year. That's hardly waiting around forever. Don't spoil his momentum by bringing this up now...remember, he's the control freak? He needs to come to commitment on his own, it needs to be his idea, or he's going to get weird and back off. The holidays are coming. Can't you just enjoy them? Is this really such a burning issue for you RIGHT NOW that you have to know?
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