Interesting Issue, Don't want to get together with my ex...but don't want to hurt her

[tomwiz]

Well after a fairly "good" break up if there is one. We've been broken up for about 4 months now. The first month was pretty hard, but made it threw it. No real fights or bad words between us, just kind of a realization that we probably weren't right for eachother. Well since that time, she's had a helluva time, doing poorly in school, her father was diagnosed with cancer. We don't really talk that often, however I do know that she asks about me quite a bit, and checks my facebook/myspace/aim almost daily. I truly feel as if I am over her. Well now it looks like I am embarking on a new relationship with a great girl. I know this will hurt her deeply (despite the fact that it was sort of her that intiated hte breakup...but thats neither here nor there). I guess I just don't know what to do, its not like we talk frequently, but my ex is a good person and I really don't wanna make her feel worse at this time. I know that she isn't seeing anyone or really interested in things like that right now. But at the same time this new girl is awesome so far. I dont really know if I'm asking for advice, just kind of venting. However if anybody has any sage words, feel free to pass them my way.

[kitkat289]

Sounds like your ex truly loves you.I would just say think again about it before experience another relationship as things are always awesome when you are seeing someone howeever with more time you realise its not what you thought it was like.I may be wrong but I also felt like I had found a perfect guy but few petty things opened my eyes like his comments on something...i found it weird.For one month he sounded so great.So I would just tell you not to be too sure of what you 'feel' and keep your eyes open.