4everloveu Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 Do you consider man that seperate from his wife is cheating when he having affair with MW. What I mean he actually didn't live with his wife for many years. But he not divorce either.
frannie Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 1. Did you ever think you would be the OW? 2. Do you think that the MM tells you the truth? 3. Do you think he would cheat on you if he left his W? If he did, what would you do? 1. No, never. In fact I've always been really quite judgmental of cheaters and those who cheat with them. 2. I think he doesn't tell me outright lies, nor would he. 3. I don't think he'd cheat on me, no. Basically because I'd never stay in a relationship where things had become strained or distant between us. I don't believe in staying in relationships that are dead... either try to keep it working, or end it. If someone cheated on me I would end the relationship there and then.
White Flower Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 Hiya WF..how are you??? To answer your Q...I cannot speak for him..but I have asked him WHY' he wishes to continue this "friendship"...because he KNOWS my feelings. His answer is that he considers our friendship very special, and that I am one of the FEW people in his life he has trusted enough to befriend. Our "relationship" is based on friendship...but yes there are a lot of sexual undertones.We were friends for two years BEFORE he got married. The woman he had been dating got pregnant a few months ago..so they got married. Since then our "relationhsip" has been rocky.I have attempted several times to end it...because it has been hard for me to deal with. He says he does not know what the future holds..because he knows he basically married her because of the pregnancy. He also has a very high profile career...and IS concerned about what others think. I am not trying to justify anything...just trying to explain my situation. Anyway...we talked recently where he opened up a lot to me..and I said "thank you..not I can move on"...he said.. "I hate the sound of "move on" it sounds so final" and he is just sad at that thought. So yes...this all from a guy who has NEVER had the opportunity to dip his "pen" in my "ink" It is strange indeed... Wow, so he only recently married her? Did you feel before that, that he could have chosen you over her if she had not gotten pregnant? Thanks for sharing your story.
PLAYBRAT Posted December 1, 2007 Posted December 1, 2007 Hi WF....yes I think he could have chosen me...and even NOW he eludes to wanting to BE with me....but I would never do anything with him while he is married.He knows this upset me terribly......and things have been strained between us. It has been very hard to accept this and be happy for him...but he is my friend and of course I WANT him to be happy. So for now...it is what it is. I am basically distancing myself from him little by little though....and eventually he will look up and I will be gone completely. HIS loss...not mine.
Adreanna Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 Hello 1. Did you ever think you would be the OW? 2. Do you think that the MM tells you the truth? 3. Do you think he would cheat on you if he left his W? If he did, what would you do? I am just curious! Thanks 1. No I didn't ever think I would. Never really given it a thought. 2. No, parts of whatever he told me could be the truth but after two years, I got tired of what he had to say. 3. I would like to think that he wouldn't cheat on me but our relationship was based on lies, it started with lies so I wouldn't be surprise if he cheated on me. If I was still with him and he cheated on me, I'd just leave him.
White Flower Posted December 2, 2007 Posted December 2, 2007 Hi WF....yes I think he could have chosen me...and even NOW he eludes to wanting to BE with me....but I would never do anything with him while he is married.He knows this upset me terribly......and things have been strained between us. It has been very hard to accept this and be happy for him...but he is my friend and of course I WANT him to be happy. So for now...it is what it is. I am basically distancing myself from him little by little though....and eventually he will look up and I will be gone completely. HIS loss...not mine. Wow, Playbrat, your story reminds me a little of Roseren's story on another thread. How hard for you it must be. I'm glad you've made the decision to back out. There is someone out there so much better for you>
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