sedgwick Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Tonight I saw a friend I haven't seen since I was with my ex. I told him we broke up and that I was still in love with him, blah blah. And my friend, a guy I haven't known all that long, said, "Don't take it personally. You know you're one of the beautiful people. People wondered what you were doing with him, not the other way around." So then he said something later on about going to a movie. He's a very cool guy and I love hanging out with him but I'm not attracted to ANYBODY right now. I can't even imagine trusting anyone again. I am not ready to date in the slightest. And then he rubbed my shoulders, and then he gave me kind of a too-long hug when he left. I made it clear, though, that I'm not at all ready to be with anyone, and he was respectful of that. It's weird, I want to just hang out as friends without thinking he's interested in me romantically. Still, it was nice to have someone say, "No, seriously you're HOT." Plus, he gave me a really wack nephrology DVD from his dad's archive of medical photography. So that's cool. He knows what a girl likes.
Trialbyfire Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 sedgewick, while I agree that you're probably not ready for any serious or committed yet, why not date lightly, where you just enjoy each other's company? As long as the guy is aware and onside with this, I don't see why you couldn't.
Author sedgwick Posted November 29, 2007 Author Posted November 29, 2007 I'm not attracted to him. I really couldn't even stand to have anyone touch me right now. I'm just not ready yet!
bustertypsy Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 You're right Sedgwick,I am very much like you.Couldn't be bothered dating right now.I don't move on like a conveyer belt.When a love is lost it's a big thing for me.I am now into week 7 and I went on a date last week.Needless to say as soon as we hooked up I knew it was not for me.All I could think of was my ex,and I knew I wasn't ready,not even nearly.So right now I am looking after me,and no one else,not for the moment anyway.
Krytie TV Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 It sounds to me like it would be a bad idea to meet this guy. Just let it go. Decline politely.
Author sedgwick Posted November 29, 2007 Author Posted November 29, 2007 Krytie, it says in the post that I'm not interested! It's definitely a bad idea. I don't want to date anybody right now. I just want to be single. And Buster, I know you know what I'm saying! I wouldn't be fair to anyone for me to date right now.
Krytie TV Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Krytie, it says in the post that I'm not interested! It's definitely a bad idea. I don't want to date anybody right now. I just want to be single. You mentioned wanting to hang out with this guy. I assumed that meant you were thinking of doing it even though he likes you. Am I wrong?
ninjaturtles Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 I know exactlyhow you feel. Right now, I am in so much distrust! I just dont want to go through anymore pain..I want to heal and be independent, single and strong..I am tired of the rollercoasters, meet MR.X today, next year Mr.x dissapoints, so does Mr.Y 2 years later on etc. I think you should do what you feel,.i.e stay single. I have used this period to better myself, leaen how to be independent etc. I am not ready to date yet....I dont want to hurt anyone the way I have been hurt. When the time is right to date, we will know. For now, lets finish this journey we have started. Stay strong.xx
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