Spiralout90 Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 I've got myself into something. About six years ago now I started talking to this girl. We met in a chat room, back when they were not filled with pervs and advertisements. At the time I was about 17, young and naive. I fell for this girl, hard, without even meeting her. I know how ridiculous that sounds but I almost compare it to like reading a book and falling in love with a character. The more I talked to her the harder I fell until she broke my heart, again, again, and again. On again off again for these past six years I've had 3 other girl friends that I've actually met but never was able to fully connect with on the level I have with this other girl. At times this girl makes me feel like the best thing that ever happened to her, she'll be vulnerable and I'll be able to comfort her. And other times she'll treat me terribly to say the least. I'm really trying to make this brief, but there just some many thoughts and feelings running though me about her. I am talking with her now, again, and I fell the same thing happening and I'm just afraid that it's going to result in a massive crash once again. I don’t know why I came and spilled this all to a bunch of strangers, but I just thought that this might be the best way to get a non biased opinion. I'm I just a perpetual sucker with low self-esteem? Or is there something more to this?
MEL914 Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 welcome to the club. she will not change unless maybe you guys move closer and you can see her everyday but even then you guys would prob end up doing the same i say move on as hard as it may be its the best thing for your self my friend!
Author Spiralout90 Posted November 29, 2007 Author Posted November 29, 2007 So I'm pretty much leading myself on towards a goal that ultimately unattainable?
purplebubbles Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Well, I'm not sure how to respond, because it really depends on the girl if she's unattainable to you, or not. Have you met her in real life? Would she be open to the idea?
Author Spiralout90 Posted November 29, 2007 Author Posted November 29, 2007 I'll bring the subject up of meeting, and she'll act like its a good idea and that we really need to do it, but she's unwilling to take any steps towards it. This girl is a lot of talk, but she'll blame it on a host of things, job, child, finances etc, basically all things i have a tough time making a decent argument against without coming off as being selfish. We've tried to meet up on several occasions only to have it ruined by her cheating on me or her going to jail (supposedly) If I were hearing a friend say this it would be easier for me, but since I have feelings involved it's a lot harder I feel like if I dont at least meet her it will be 6 years of nothing.
purplebubbles Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 It does seem like you are reaching a little bit in that case. Has it occured to you that perhaps she is not who she says she is? Or perhaps that she already has a partner? Or perhaps she's just insanely shy. I know it's hard and after all this time you want things to work, but have you considered that you deserve better than this? You've opened your heart to this girl and she hasn't reciprocated. She's not being fair to you. If you want to lay all this to rest, you've got to do whatever you need to so that you are satisfied that you've tried everything. Whether, that requires suggesting that you have one last try at meeting and if it doesn't come through, then you have your answer.
Meaplus3 Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 So I'm pretty much leading myself on towards a goal that ultimately unattainable? This must be tough for you as 6 year's is a very long time to be talking with someone you have never meet in person, especially when you have feeling's for the person. I give you credit that you have been able to go on like this for so long, not something I could ever do. I think you need to move on and find someone who is near to you and can be there for you. Hang in there. AP:)
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