carolinaboy Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Hey LS readers, long story short. for those of you who've been following my story, this is a new development. I'll give any new readers a rundown and then I'd like some opinions. My ex is a great person. Really cool, I want to be friends w/ her. Bottomline is how we broke up. We'd been together 3 years and the last year I felt completely s**t on. She moved her sister, her mom, herself and two couch crashing friends into my house upon returning from NYC, where'd she'd been for the summer. I agreed to all this cos one I was whipped, two I'm down for sharing a space with creative fun people and her pitch was it would make the rent almost nothing. That scenario grew old fast. We broke up 5 mos ago and she immediately got with one of the couchcrashing guys. I was devastated and had a breakdown pretty much. As far as I know her and couch guy are still together and she is compromising for him where she never could for me. I'm guessing cos dude has no problem being assertive. We're 23. He's 30. Time went by and I was going NC, she contacted me about 8 times. I was thinking of her tonight and she calls! We talk and it's pleasant. She acts like what happened back at the house was natural. All she'll say about it is she "flipped." Thats her only apology. It pisses me off royally. She wants to hang out Monday. WHAT DO YOU ALL THINK? The conversation was nice, it was pleasant, I feel ok. I dont wanna get back together. But I was wounded and I dont trust her and dont want it to happen again. Here's the email she sent me (a lil invasive I know, but I dont care anymore): hey i miss you. what are you up to? hows the music? how are your parents? what does your room look like? yr hairstyle? yr beard? my mom has been asking about you she wants to call you would that be cool? i think russ is moving back up. i heard farrior is plowed. i saw a bumper sticker today that at first glance said "help keep autism weird" turns out it said austin.ugg. how was the tour? whens spain? durhams cool, anonymous and vague. i walk a lot. collect wood. make bad art. is it presumptuous to write? i'm working at the third reich sunday night if you want to drop in. i understand if not. some day. maybe a smoke a beer and a game of pool. stay you. love me
kitkat289 Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 you are right...do what you feel like doing.Do not meet her or be very friendly.Give her a lot of time to realise your importance and learn things.She must be great as you think but do not sacrifice your self-respect for anything.If things have to be cool again, she will do all the efforts while you just stay away from her and keep moving on.Good luck!
spookie Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Why bother? You don't trust her, and I wouldn't either. What she did to you was sh!!ty. She left you for someone crashing at your house? WTF? You must have other friends. Hang out with them instead. Unless you actually do want to get back together... in that case, it's not my place to advise you not to go. People make mistakes and I don't subsrcibe to the popular theory around here that if someone messed up you should cut them out for good evne if you don't want to. My point is, do what you want. But if you're happy with moving on, don't pull yourself back by meeting up with her. You don't owe her that.
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