Krytie TV Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 No, this isn't a deep thread. It's all around here and has happened to me chronically. Sex dies after a year or two. That's why I can't imagine marrying again. Why marry when you can save yourself the hell of having sex once a month and just move from relationship to relationship every two years and actually have a good sex life?
spooty Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 yeah wait until you don't want sex anymore, then get married!
shadowplay Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 Does sex die usually because the woman stops putting out?
Author Krytie TV Posted November 29, 2007 Author Posted November 29, 2007 Does sex die usually because the woman stops putting out? Well, in my case yes. But then it would follow that for women with this complaint, it would be because the man stopped putting out.
iceknite Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Maybe some people dont only think about sex.
Author Krytie TV Posted November 29, 2007 Author Posted November 29, 2007 Maybe some people consider it to be very important though?
Racquel Colette Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Sex dying after two years may be your personal experience but it isn't for a LOT of married (and nonmarried) couples I know.
oppath Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Hahaha. Well, sex dying out is mostly a sign of other things being absent in the relationship. If not, then maybe I need to become a swinger, because maybe that is the key to keeping things fresh. I get your point though. why commit when it is likely that an important part of a relationship, for you, is likely to diminish? All I know is that I've had two relationships, when after the women ended it, they still wanted to sleep with me. Hopefully that means I'll never experience it, though as Riddler pointed out, I'm a great starting pitcher, but I don't seem to make it into the later innings.
Jilly Bean Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Everyone knows single people are the only ones who get laid. Der... Oppath - you've been the recipient of booty call ex-sex?
Pyro Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Hahaha. Well, sex dying out is mostly a sign of other things being absent in the relationship. If not, then maybe I need to become a swinger, because maybe that is the key to keeping things fresh. I get your point though. why commit when it is likely that an important part of a relationship, for you, is likely to diminish? All I know is that I've had two relationships, when after the women ended it, they still wanted to sleep with me. Hopefully that means I'll never experience it, though as Riddler pointed out, I'm a great starting pitcher, but I don't seem to make it into the later innings. Hey, the starting pitcher is your claim.
spookie Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Well, I've only had one LTR. And sex did become a point of contention at the two-year mark because I wanted it and he acted like he could do without. But we still did it twice a week (which wasn't enough for me) and that's a helluva lot more (and it was a lot better than the subsequent sex I've had because I loved him) than I'm getting now. Now that I've been single, I won't place such importance on it in my future relationships. Drives wax and wane, but it's better to be with the one you love than alone and missing him or with someone that just wants to f&@k you.
Author Krytie TV Posted November 29, 2007 Author Posted November 29, 2007 Drives wax and wane, but it's better to be with the one you love than alone and missing him or with someone that just wants to f&@k you. Hey, you're the one that stated making love is just f**king, not me. I never said I wanted no love in it.
spookie Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Hey, you're the one that stated making love is just f**king, not me. I never said I wanted no love in it. Yah, but I don't think love is so easy to find that you can replace who you have it with every two years. Besides, it'd be kind of a mind-f&*k to be with someone you "love" knowing in the back of your head that in two years, as soon as something came up to kill their drive, you're gone.
Author Krytie TV Posted November 29, 2007 Author Posted November 29, 2007 Not for everyone it wouldn't be. Maybe for you?
spookie Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Not for everyone it wouldn't be. Maybe for you? It wouldn't be easy to find or a mindf&*k? It's definitely not easy for me to find love. I'm very open-minded as far as things like physical characteristics that I'm attracted to go but there's only been two guys that I've met that I could see long-term potential with for the simple fact that I could stand to spend upwards of two hours with them at a time without getting annoyed. I am easily irritated by people and value alone-time so therefore prefer brooding lone-wolf types who aren't the easiest people to get acquainted with in the first place. As for the mindf*&k, I can't imagine it would be possible to love someone and know it won't last forever.
CD111 Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 I have also found that the sex life takes a nose dive after two years. In my situations the problem has been three fold: 1) I would get bored of the same old same old in the bedroom. Not blaming the guy, it's as much my responsibility as their's to keep things interesting. I personally really felt a lack of real connection anymore it was just like cruise control. I have tried to express my concerns, but my ex took it the wrong way and couldn't get over the fact that his bedroom skills were no longer good enough for me. Which really wasn't the case. I think that having continually great sex takes lots of practice, creativity and effort by both parties. 2) There are usually underlying issues. People don't deal with things or work through problems together and once there is resentment the bedroom experience suffers. 3) Some people tend to believe that once they have been in a serious relationship for a certain period of time they no longer need to make as much of an effort in relation to their partner. They get comfortable, romance goes down the ****ter and there isn't as much of a push to keep things interesting. A serious long time relationship is just like any other and needs to be maintained. Every once in a while a couple needs to things for each other to keep their partner's interested and remind them why the heck they got together in the first place. This includes dressing nice once in a while, going out and doing things together, planning some couple-alone time (doesn't matter whether it's a hike, hitting the hotsprings or having a naked saturday in bed together), getting a girl flowers once in a while (such a simple gesture..so appreciated..yet most guys won't do it), getting it on anywhere but the bedroom (personally I can't stress this enough....LOL) and actually communicating with the other person. Not rambling on about work, the kids or whatever else is going on. In my next relationship I plan on trying much harder to implement my suggestions. Let you all know if it works out. But, I do know if my ex did more of this stuff things may have worked out different. That's my two cents
Author Krytie TV Posted November 29, 2007 Author Posted November 29, 2007 It wouldn't be easy to find or a mindf&*k? No, I meant it wouldn't be a mindf*ck being with someone you love knowing it'll go down the crapper.
Storyrider Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Maybe marrying someone with multiple personality disorder would keep things fresh.
Trialbyfire Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Shirley Mason had 16 personalities. Maybe she might be the right fit. If one personality has a headache, there's still 15 more to pursue.
sumdude Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Shirley Mason had 16 personalities. Maybe she might be the right fit. If one personality has a headache, there's still 15 more to pursue. OMG if they're all on a hormonal mood swing at the same time... the horror....
Trialbyfire Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 OMG if they're all on a hormonal mood swing at the same time... the horror.... Don't worry, some were men.
Storyrider Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Don't worry, some were men. That helps with those who swing both ways. Just wait, and the right gender will come available eventually.
Trialbyfire Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 That helps with those who swing both ways. Just wait, and the right gender will come available eventually. Of course this begs the question. What happens if the personality change happens mid-session? Maybe this person might not be good marriage material.
Storyrider Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Maybe this person might not be good marriage material. Ya think? I have wondered what it would be like to be with someone more unpredictable and mercurial. My spouse is completely the opposite. I can't say that I'm all that spontaneous myself though. Maybe one of us should be.
Trialbyfire Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 I have wondered what it would be like to be with someone more unpredictable and mercurial. My spouse is completely the opposite. I can't say that I'm all that spontaneous myself though. Maybe one of us should be. All I'll say is the more creative, the more interesting.
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