andysw Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 For the past couple of months I've been pushing myself in making new acqaintances and become friends. But somehow I just end up a once in a lifetime approach to every person I meet. I don't understand on how to make new friends any more. A majority of my classmates have made acqaitances in the first few days of college and eventually became close friends, whereas leaving me with no one. How do I know if I will become close friends with this person and how can I be up to their expectations? I really don't understand this. Please help.
Pedigree Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 Just talk to them I guess. If you find that you have similar interests, then you're more likely to become friends. That's usually the case with me.
BeautifulMystique Posted November 29, 2007 Posted November 29, 2007 I would follow up with them (the acquaintances) and see where it will lead me. How about joining some clubs? Usually in college, there will be cliques so that might be why it's easier for some to become close. For example, when I was in college, it was hard for me to make friends but when I met those from the same background/lifestyles, we clicked instantly as do some Asians with other Asians etc.
Magnatolia Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 A lot of colleges have clubs and most of them would have activities to help students meet. But the best advice is to listen. Be there for them when they need someone, get to the point where they can tell you just about anything and they don't even question whether they can trust this information with you. Obviously not everybody wants to open up to people, but give them the option. Like I had an old workmate who said she was going through some tough times. I gave her the option of talking to me. She thanked me but said she was alright. Make sure you know a bit about what's going on. That way if someone says something about a recent event, etc you can join the conversation. Another thing, when you're talking keep an eye on the other person/s reaction. Not everbody has the same interests and you may love....investing, yet if you go into great detail to a person who's not interested, they'll get bored and won't see you as a potential friend.
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