Gay or bi husband

[sweet_31_woman]

If my husband says and does things when he is drunk, but denies them he is sober , what do I believe and how should I react.? If I dont feel that I love him in a wifely manner do I leave him even if he don't want me to go? How do I get him to understand I don't fell for him the way I should?

[Tripper]

Didn't you start an earlier thread, stating your husband acted on bisexual tendencies when drunk?

 

Booze is a great "un-inhibitor" and that you might to things while inebriated that you wouldn't do sober. But you still have to have that tendency as part of your psyche. When I was in my 20's, if I was drunk, I would have sex with any available woman, but never a man: I'm hetro and have no confusion over my sexuality or orientation.

 

He may be bi but afraid to admit it, even to himself or confused about his sexuality. Has he had sexual partners prior to you??

 

My main concern though is your unhappiness. I glanced at the earlier thread stating you had participated in a threesome with another male, though you didn't want to.

 

What comes immediately to mind is STD's. I hope you had protected/safe sex and if your husband wants to switch hit, then you should use protection even with him. And consider getting yourself tested for STD's.

 

Dealing with your unhappiness is a whole other issue. What is it that is making you unhappy, specifically. Can it be fixed or changed?? Do you want to fix it or change it? Is your husband willing to work on it together in MC? or are you alone in this?

 

It sounds like you need to have a heart to heart talk with H and tell him what your feeling and why? Is it how he treats you?? how he acts?? Is it his drinking??and consider MC to determine if the marriage is salvageable.

If his drinking is a big issue and it sounds like it is, if he won't or can't get help and stop, then you need to look for support such as Al-anon.

 

Don't rush to any quick decision without exploring these options first. If you must end the M then you must. You must do what's right for yourself and your children.

 

Good Luck