AngeloWolfe Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 Wow... a lot has happened with in 4 months. I had to come to everyone here to get better opinion of what's happening. Because... no matter how I look at it, I am very young and very unexperienced... so a little help every once in a while hopefully doesn't make me look a fool. Sometimes the worlds seems , and all is well when you're young. I've suffered the loss of having my first fiance taken from me, and my second one cheating. So... I've been in shambles for quite sometimes. However... I really think I have found the one this time. She's so beautiful, so sweet, so intelligent, just all-around amazing. I've dreamed of this girl, and we have so very much in common. Yet... I'm scared. I tend to get so attached so quickly, I try to watch my footing. But... it seems so different with this one. I start a sentence - she finishes it with what I was thinking. In 4 months we have grown as close as a 3-year old could. We love each other, we need each other, we care for each other. But... with these eternal fires burning, there are several things that have been brought up. Marriage, Children, Hopes, Dreams, Moving in together, college, the list is endless. I want to make her happy, adn she says all she needs is me. My question is.... am I rushing things too quickly? We've both talked about it, and don't think we're going too fast at all. But... from a healthy standpoint, what do you all think?
Lovegod Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 In 4 months we have grown as close as a 3-year old could. 4 months is not enough time to consider marrying this person. Give her at least one year before you decide to make a serious commitment such as marriage. I want to make her happy One thing you must realize is that you cannot make anybody 100% happy. She's going to have her pissy days where she's going to start arguments with her. Also, "romantic" gifts don't fix everything. If she's in a bad mood, a dozen stinky flowers won't make it all better. Let her wallow in her piss and she'll eventually decide to come out of it. My question is.... am I rushing things too quickly? Yes. See my first comment. We've both talked about it, and don't think we're going too fast at all. That's because you're both infatuated with each other. Also, let's look at your past track record: I've suffered the loss of having my first fiance taken from me, and my second one cheating. You've already been engaged twice. If you handled those women the same way you're handling this one, you're going to set yourself back up for disaster. You're better off giving your relationship at least a year, if not more to see if she's gonna bugger off on you. But if you choose to continue learning nothing from your past relationships, then that's your choice.
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 So uh, since college is in your list of future endeavours, I'll assume you're not there yet, and thus you're probably still a teenager...yet, you've been engaged twice, and are convinced, after four months, third time's a charm? I don't think there's any bigger turn-off in the world than a guy who thinks every girl who looks at him twice is his soulmate that he will marry and be with forever.
Krytie TV Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 I agree with the above poster. If you guys are meant to be married, then you will still be together a year from now and you can propose then. If you guys break up before then, then proposing would have been a bad idea, huh? Take it from someone who proposed after 6 months before and ended up marrying. I will never do it again. You don't really know a person in 4 months. You've only scratched her surface. Was your ex cheating on you at the 4 month mark? Probably not, this was a reality that wasn't exposed until later. Give that time to come out.
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