XxBacktoBlackXx Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 I don't know what to do. I have been dating this guy for 3 months, we will call him W. From what I've gathered about W, he is a very honest person. Anyway, he has fallen in love with me and talks about the future with me a great deal. He is a virgin and told me that he is ready to take it to the next level. He talks about how he loves me and wants to be with me for an extremely long time. Well, throughout our short relationship, I have made complaints to him about my job. I didn't constantly complain about it, but I just said frustrations that I was having. He doesn't have a job right now. He was worried about all of these little frustrations and said maybe it's time for me to give them my two weeks notice. Well, foolishly I thought maybe I should because he seemed pretty adament about it. I think he genuinely thought it would make me happy, without understanding that no matter where you work, you will always have little frustrations. The grass is not always greener on the other side. Granted, this is a job I'm working while going to school, so it's not as if it's a career job, but I need the money. I did end up giving this job a 2 weeks notice. My manager wants to speak with me today. I know my manager is going to try and get me to come back, and I'm really thinking about doing so. I have no other job to go to and I have bills to pay. W knows that I don't have another job lined up but he is wanting me to find a job where I have the weekends free. It's not so easy for me to find jobs in this little town and I can't afford having no job while looking around for other jobs. The only other option I have here are factory jobs and I doubt if I'll be able to do that and go to school, although I've been considering on-line classes for awhile. This weekend, he wants to come and meet my parents and then have me spend the weekend at his house. If I do talk to my manager today and accept the job back, I am thinking that I will most likely have to work this weekend, as they often have me working every weekend. W and I are able to see each other at least once a week. He lives 45 minutes away from me. Without me working this job, we would be able to more often but I wouldn't have the money I need to pay my bills. I think he's expecting that I will be able to find something soon that will allow me to not work on the weekends, but I told him it's unrealistic. I told him about my meeting with my manager today and he said I should tell them that it's time for me to move on. I didn't say I was seriously considering taking the job back, as I wasn't until speaking with a good friend today who tried to make me think about the situation and what type of situation I would be putting myself into were I to not have this job. It will take me awhile for me to find another job in my small town. I know he is going to be incredibly upset with me about this weekend. I know he loves me so much and I am wondering if I should break things off because I don't know if I can mold my lifestyle around the type of lifestyle that he wants me to have. I'm unable to not work. His parents are going to support him until he's 22. He is 21 and I am 22. I care about him a lot and I do love him, but I don't know what I should do.
adam S Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 dont quit ur job...if he loves u he will understand besides...never take employment advice from an unemployed person..and u are right...no matter where u work there will always be drama and bull..get used to it
bish Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 Unless someone is getting married and moving...the only time I can think of for someone to quit a job is if a married person cheated with someone at work. The cheater needs to quit and find another job, otherwise trying to make the marriage work will fail.
Krytie TV Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 I'm really rather confused why you are even considering quitting a job for one weekend with a boy? This struggle you feel about disappointing him is healthy... it's called responsibility. As the other poster said, never take work advice from an unemplyed person. Also, just be careful with how quickly he wants to move to the next level. As you say, he's a virgin. He would do anything to end that (most would). So for him, the only reason to move things along is for sex. Once that happens, he may have a complete change of heart about the "emotional" next step. Just tossing that out there.
Author XxBacktoBlackXx Posted November 28, 2007 Author Posted November 28, 2007 Thank you for all the advice. I'm not confused about quitting a job for one weekend. I'm confused about doing it because he wants me to find a job that has all weekends free. I agreed with him that I would find one that has that but I don't think he realizes how hard it is to find jobs in my town. I considered quitting my job because it seemed like it was something he really, really wanted and I thought maybe it would be best for me but I'm realizing now that perhaps I jumped the gun on that thought.
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