shadowofman Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 It's about my own relationship. I know all about my feelings and thoughts about my relationship, but I'm having trouble putting words in my wife's mouth. She is pretty typical female for the most part, so I guess I need help from you ladies. But male POVs are welcome. Here's the premise. It's a modern day sci-fi about my relationship. Me and my wife are introduced to a new technology that actually allows us to feel each others emotions, think each others thoughts exactly as we think them and so forth. Not telepathic communication, but a transfer of emotion and an understanding of intended meaning. I couldn't tell her to hand me the drink on the table, but she would know that I was thirsty as soon as I realized it myself. I'm writing the scenario of our first experience with this, and it's time for me to sum up what we learned from the experience. Since the majority of my energy is spent trying to convince her that I love her and that I'm attracted to her, I have decided that in the story, she walks away from the experience with this understanding. Maybe for the first time she knows that I love her and that I find her sexually irresistable. That I really do think she is smart, funny, sexy, beautiful etc, etc. She basically now believes me, where before, words were just words. My actions were maybe just acts to her before, or so she toccationally thought. Now she knows first hand my sincerity. Interesting idea huh? I am having trouble with writing my new insights however. What would I learn about her feelings (other than the fact that she is insecure about me)? I already know she loves me and that she is attracted to me. Maybe there is nothing, but I feel like there has to be. I feel arrogant saying this, but I believe everything she tells me, truely.
quankanne Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 I think maybe that kind of "openness" – of knowing another person's mind – leaves you vulnerable. Because you know how easy it could be to exploit that person (digging in the past, etc), or even be exploited (no privacy), even though you understand that it's an improved form of communication between the two of you. most especially when there are feelings of unsurity or insecurity that are hidden because they're tied to old events you've buried. Like the time she was secretly hurt because you forgot something that was important to her, or didn't have the reaction she was hoping for when she shared something with you ... or that she had doubts about the relationship because one of you was still hooked on the ideal mate you felt you had in a previous relationship even though you realize now that person couldn't hold a candle to the one you're with. I feel arrogant saying this, but I believe everything she tells me, truly. it's not being arrogant, but more of a matter of trust. However, because in reality you don't know each other 100 percent (just your "interpretation" of each other), everything is really at face value. And with the kind of soul-bearing scenario you're setting up with this story, there's going to be issues of conflict because you'll have a more in-depth realization of what the other person feels/thinks. And that is interesting stuff in itself ...
Author shadowofman Posted November 30, 2007 Author Posted November 30, 2007 Let me ask, would you use such a technology if it was available. Would you want to be inside your partners head, or have them in yours. I totally would. I do see the conflicts that could result, but ultimatly, it would all be worth it. I don't think manipulation would be an issue, because the other person is feeling you and understanding your intended meaning. At least that's how I'm writing it. The story is going to take place down the road in our realtionship, so past relationships probably wouldn't be an issue. Not for me anyway. All I can really think of is the insecurity issue. She would finally understand that I do love her, and I would understand what it felt like to have that insecurity. I suppose I would feel jealousy/possessiveness. Something very rare, if I've ever even experienced it. Maybe she feels love stronger than me, that would be interesting plot, but I'm not willing to accept or write that. Don't really believe it. Ladies, what do you wish your husbands could understand about your emotions, feelings, and needs?
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