clueless24 Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 So this guy and I are classmates and are close friends. He texts me a lot, everyday. sometimes we talk through text for a few hours. I am assuming that he does have feelings for me cuz guys just don't do that if they are just interested in just being friends right? However, he often do not respond to my texts. So being ticked off by that, i sometimes dont answer his texts as well. Then he would call, not to ask why i didn't text back but just to make small talk. I usually dont call him unless it is to return his call. I texted him saying i hate it that he doesnt respond sometimes and he said he was sorry he did not get the previous text i was referring to. i dont know if that's true but then he does it again and again. yesterday, i texted him a few times and he did not respond. today he texted me to say have a good time at the clinic. i didnt respond. I think he knows that i am attracted to him. it seems like he draws me in and then gives me the cold shoulders. He would text, sometimes call, me to go get lunch or breakfast. He talks about other girls around me a lot and does not make any effort in pursueing me outside of the texting. He was quite flaky last weekend when he said he would join my friends and I for sushi. I texted him asking if he's going later. he responded hes going to hang out with his friends. i was a little pissed, but i didnt respond to say anything. He called later to say have a good time. Is he playing mind games with me or is he just not romantically interested? despite how many times he does not repsond to my text, i normally respond just because i feel bad if i dont (except today). should i stop responding to him? I hate mind games and i dont know why guys play them, but should i and how should I procceed to beat him at his own game?
Jilly Bean Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 God, it's so hard to tell with them at that tender HS age. If he were older, I would say unilaterally that bringing up other girls is a sign he's not romantically interested. But at his age - pfft - SO hard to tell, as he may think it increases his romantic real estate. So, if you want to play his game, then don't respond timely to his texts, don't ask me him to go places, and talk about other guys.
Author clueless24 Posted November 28, 2007 Author Posted November 28, 2007 God, it's so hard to tell with them at that tender HS age. If he were older, I would say unilaterally that bringing up other girls is a sign he's not romantically interested. But at his age - pfft - SO hard to tell, as he may think it increases his romantic real estate. we are in medical school =) that's what sucks, you think they could be more mature =(
Lovegod Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 He was quite flaky last weekend when he said he would join my friends and I for sushi. No offense, but the sound of joining some cute honey AND HER FRIENDS for dinner sounds like a boring and irritating night at the opera. If you want to do something with him, do it one-on-one. And quit texting to communicate. Do it on the phone or better yet, do it in person.
mcgintygirl Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 What's it like dealing with guys in medschool? I got dumped by someone who started med school and he's now 4 weeks later emeshed and entangled in the fishbowl with a "girlfriend" he says isn't cute but smart. What is life like 1st year? PS: I'd say he likes you.. Just b/c he mentions other girls doesn't mean anything, he could just be uncertain about what he wants and is gadging your response.
Author clueless24 Posted December 11, 2007 Author Posted December 11, 2007 What's it like dealing with guys in medschool? I got dumped by someone who started med school and he's now 4 weeks later emeshed and entangled in the fishbowl with a "girlfriend" he says isn't cute but smart. What is life like 1st year? PS: I'd say he likes you.. Just b/c he mentions other girls doesn't mean anything, he could just be uncertain about what he wants and is gadging your response. the guys in medical school? they are particularly hard to understand =). i am not going to say most, but very much want to, guys lack that sweet nature that really impresses you. the guys who are confident believe they can get any girl they want. the guys who are quiet often lack social skills and probably do not even want a gf during medical school. i have told myself many times to avoid the attraction toward someone in my class; but it's hard when you see them 10 hrs a day and drink with them on the weekend (if there is a weekend). your class becomes incestrous and your social life becomes limited to the people within your class because they are the only ones that have the same schedule as you do. medical school is a very busy and isolated lifestyle. I am sorry to hear that your last bf left you once medical school started. somtimes things just dont work out. if he's the kind of guy that goes after new goals in life once he's in a new setting and does not value you over someone he just met is probably not worth your time. smart girls does not mean better lovers . i dont know how much you want to know about medical school, besides that it's very stressful and a **** load of information to grasp. if you have any other questions let me know. if you are interested in applying to medical school, perhaps i can give you a few tips having been through it myself . As for me, i am still very confuse about this guy that i am interested in. i am just trying to get over the attraction right now. he's moving forward and then stepping back. i am thinking he's a little interested but is not completely sure if he wants a relationship. Perhaps he is pursuing mutiple potentials and just want to keep my attention for the time being. i called him an ******* a few days ago and he said he's like that because girls are attracted to *******s . that's a good sign to move on isn't it? p.s. guys in medical school are some of the cheapest guys i have ran across. i know we are living on loan money, but i spend more money on a dinner then they would spend a weekend. i know it sounds like a mass generalization but that's just my experience
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