Meaplus3 Posted November 28, 2007 Posted November 28, 2007 I was wondering if it's normal for my 7 year old boy to have emotional outburst's? I have noticed this some what in his same age friend's when they are all playing. It's seem's they get sort of touchy over the smallest thing's. Is this just the age? Am I doing something wrong? AP:)
copinghubby Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 If you are, then so and I My now 8 year old son tends to have some emotional outbursts as well. It is most likely related to his personality and age. My other children do not exhibit it as often. Just tonight he had on over learning recitation for school. His tend to come from not doing this perfectly/correctly as quickly as he would like. Hope this helps. CH
Lizzie60 Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 They probably are perfectionists.. sensitive kids... and they get frustrated. Sit down with them, talk gently, tell them to calm down and to make them talk about their feelings.. If you try a few things and you're still concerned about it.. get him to see a psychologist. I wish I had done that with my son. but my SO then was too macho to admit his son had problems. Don't overlook their feelings.
Author Meaplus3 Posted November 30, 2007 Author Posted November 30, 2007 If you are, then so and I My now 8 year old son tends to have some emotional outbursts as well. It is most likely related to his personality and age. My other children do not exhibit it as often. Just tonight he had on over learning recitation for school. His tend to come from not doing this perfectly/correctly as quickly as he would like. Hope this helps. CH WOW! Sound's like my son! He truely does not like to make mistakes. He's in second grade with 100 average in everything. He is a sensitve boy with the biggest heart in the world. Glad to know I'm not alone. I guess I hope to be able to be senstive enough to his emotion's, Because I alway's want him to know how much I love him. it's sort of a fine line. Thank's CH. AP:)
Author Meaplus3 Posted November 30, 2007 Author Posted November 30, 2007 They probably are perfectionists.. sensitive kids... and they get frustrated. Sit down with them, talk gently, tell them to calm down and to make them talk about their feelings.. If you try a few things and you're still concerned about it.. get him to see a psychologist. I wish I had done that with my son. but my SO then was too macho to admit his son had problems. Don't overlook their feelings. Thank's Lizzie this makes perfect sense! How's your new little grand daughter doing? AP:)
Trialbyfire Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 answer, how far do these emotional outbursts go?
ThumbingMyWay Posted November 30, 2007 Posted November 30, 2007 Absolutely normal for a young child to have emotional outbursts. By age 8, IMO, is when children step out from that "wall" that we as parents have built around them to shield them from the world. Starting school at age 6, interaction with other kids, other grown ups, etc. Its an age where they become "aware" so to speak that other people are individuals and have feelings too. They start to "feel" more because they are experiencing more reality. So to have break downs is completely normal. Up until age 6 or so, there world consisted of there home. Now they enter school, have other activities they join (sports, clubs, etc) learn to read and the world becomes so much bigger. They get more responsibilty too, which is a big adjustment for a young child. My daughter had more mom time in her young years, my wife worked part-time. Now she had alot of issue in her first few years of school. So much that we had her meet with the school counslor and a private counsler. She was sick to her stomach alot, but with IC and lots of talking, we determined she was having anxiety attacks. To the point it made her physically sick, fever, vomitting, etc. For the littlest things too. Forgeting milk money, someone calling her a name, not having the right answer in class, etc. She is a perfectionist and these little things bothered her ALOT. So through counsling, we taught her to distinguish between nervous tummy and sick tummy. NOW...she is 8 and what a difference I see. She is confident, less concerned with what others do or say and she doesnt let ALL the little things bother her. She has really grown in the last 2 years. What a sweetheart she is. She now tells us all of her feelings, she feels safe talking to us, which is awesome. My Son is 5 and the youngest in his kindergarden class. He did not get as much mom time when younger as my daughter got. He is much more aggressive than his sister. When he started school, wow...was that a challenge. Lots of the same issue, but he didnt know how to express them. Have not done IC with him, but he has shown a huge difference in the first few months on kindergarden. We are working more with him on just talking about stuff and letting him know that for us to help him, he has to tell us what is wrong. he bottles it all up and only shares when we get him calm and feeling safe. Got more work to do on him, but it will come around. I think the key is, to build a safe environment for them to be able to talk to us. If we dont express how we feel in front of them, how will they learn to do the same? if we dont admit our faluts, how will they learn how. We shouldnt be a friend to our kids, nor should we be an authority figure that they are scared to talk to. We need to find a balance so they know you are the boss, but you are understanding and compasionate was well.
Author Meaplus3 Posted November 30, 2007 Author Posted November 30, 2007 Absolutely normal for a young child to have emotional outbursts. By age 8, IMO, is when children step out from that "wall" that we as parents have built around them to shield them from the world. Starting school at age 6, interaction with other kids, other grown ups, etc. Its an age where they become "aware" so to speak that other people are individuals and have feelings too. They start to "feel" more because they are experiencing more reality. So to have break downs is completely normal. Up until age 6 or so, there world consisted of there home. Now they enter school, have other activities they join (sports, clubs, etc) learn to read and the world becomes so much bigger. They get more responsibilty too, which is a big adjustment for a young child. My daughter had more mom time in her young years, my wife worked part-time. Now she had alot of issue in her first few years of school. So much that we had her meet with the school counslor and a private counsler. She was sick to her stomach alot, but with IC and lots of talking, we determined she was having anxiety attacks. To the point it made her physically sick, fever, vomitting, etc. For the littlest things too. Forgeting milk money, someone calling her a name, not having the right answer in class, etc. She is a perfectionist and these little things bothered her ALOT. So through counsling, we taught her to distinguish between nervous tummy and sick tummy. NOW...she is 8 and what a difference I see. She is confident, less concerned with what others do or say and she doesnt let ALL the little things bother her. She has really grown in the last 2 years. What a sweetheart she is. She now tells us all of her feelings, she feels safe talking to us, which is awesome. My Son is 5 and the youngest in his kindergarden class. He did not get as much mom time when younger as my daughter got. He is much more aggressive than his sister. When he started school, wow...was that a challenge. Lots of the same issue, but he didnt know how to express them. Have not done IC with him, but he has shown a huge difference in the first few months on kindergarden. We are working more with him on just talking about stuff and letting him know that for us to help him, he has to tell us what is wrong. he bottles it all up and only shares when we get him calm and feeling safe. Got more work to do on him, but it will come around. I think the key is, to build a safe environment for them to be able to talk to us. If we dont express how we feel in front of them, how will they learn to do the same? if we dont admit our faluts, how will they learn how. We shouldnt be a friend to our kids, nor should we be an authority figure that they are scared to talk to. We need to find a balance so they know you are the boss, but you are understanding and compasionate was well. I think the key is, to build a safe environment for them to be able to talk to us. If we dont express how we feel in front of them, how will they learn to do the same? if we dont admit our faluts, how will they learn how. We shouldnt be a friend to our kids, nor should we be an authority figure that they are scared to talk to. We need to find a balance so they know you are the boss, but you are understanding and compasionate was well. I have to say I agree with you here 100 %!! I's so very important that our kid's can feel safe to talk with us. I feel lucky to have that with mine. Both my 7 year old and 5 year alway's tell me when something is on their mind, I think it's great! Yes Balance sure is the key. I know a few friend's who came from home's where there was lot's of peace, mostly due to silence, parent's did not talk much, did now show much emotion. Their parent's attitude " Children should be seen and not heard". I believe that is so damaging and saw it to hold true for my friend's. They turned out as adult's who lacked social skill and coping abiltiy. Thank's so much for your thought's here. AP:)
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